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Author Topic: First deck for a 13 year old boy  (Read 1857 times)

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First deck for a 13 year old boy
« on: March 28, 2016, 05:34:53 pm »
My son will be turning 13 in a few months and has asked me for a Tarot deck. My first deck was the Thoth Tarot which I got when I was 15 and I still have. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels some type of sensation with Tarot decks. Each deck has a different personality or energy. Most decks I've seen are either really feminine, have nudity, or both.

What would be a good deck for a boy?

He likes the art of Shadowscapes. That one has been on my Tarot want list for a long time.

Can decks be shared?

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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #1 on: March 28, 2016, 06:08:33 pm »
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He likes the art of Shadowscapes. That one has been on my Tarot want list for a long time.

Can decks be shared?

 
I have Shadowscapes, and I'm in *love!* If he likes it and you two don't *mind* sharing, then I don't see why you can't get him the deck.

My view on deck sharing is that it depends on how you want to use the deck. Solely for personal matters? Then don't share. But if he or you are going to do readings for friends or for each other (which, actually, if you two are close enough, I recommend; I always learn new tricks and aspects of the cards when reading with my mother and he might feel the same) then personally I'd say to go ahead and share!

I do suggest Shadowscapes, if only because it comes with a book that's specialized for the tarot and it's easy to discern meanings by the feeling of each card, as well as a good intuitive read.

Best of luck to you both! If it's not too much trouble, I'd love to hear the end result. :)
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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #2 on: March 28, 2016, 08:33:39 pm »
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I have Shadowscapes, and I'm in *love!* If he likes it and you two don't *mind* sharing, then I don't see why you can't get him the deck.

My view on deck sharing is that it depends on how you want to use the deck. Solely for personal matters? Then don't share. But if he or you are going to do readings for friends or for each other (which, actually, if you two are close enough, I recommend; I always learn new tricks and aspects of the cards when reading with my mother and he might feel the same) then personally I'd say to go ahead and share!

I do suggest Shadowscapes, if only because it comes with a book that's specialized for the tarot and it's easy to discern meanings by the feeling of each card, as well as a good intuitive read.

Best of luck to you both! If it's not too much trouble, I'd love to hear the end result. :)

 
Thank you for responding. I can't believe I'm going to have a teenager so soon. He was just a baby. Some of his friends are starting to find pagan books and are talking about them. He tells me he feels lucky that he has a mom that has so many interesting books and stuff around the house. I wasn't expecting him to ask me for a Tarot deck so soon, but here we are.

I don't know if he'll do readings for his friends. I did that, so I'm expecting him to do the same. Some of them might be afraid. I knew kids who got freaked out when I played blackjack with the Thoth deck with some kids.

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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #3 on: March 28, 2016, 09:56:31 pm »
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Thank you for responding. I can't believe I'm going to have a teenager so soon. He was just a baby.


Haaaa, I know the feeling! For different reasons, as I'm going to be a legal adult in eight months or so and I still feel about three. Where does the time go?

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Some of his friends are starting to find pagan books and are talking about them. He tells me he feels lucky that he has a mom that has so many interesting books and stuff around the house. I wasn't expecting him to ask me for a Tarot deck so soon, but here we are.

I don't know if he'll do readings for his friends. I did that, so I'm expecting him to do the same. Some of them might be afraid. I knew kids who got freaked out when I played blackjack with the Thoth deck with some kids.

 
That's certainly something to take into consideration. Just let him know you expect him to be discerning about who he uses it with (although you probably already have--unless you don't expect that, which is fine too).
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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #4 on: March 28, 2016, 10:00:22 pm »
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What would be a good deck for a boy?

 
I think that depends a lot on what sort of things he's interested in.

(I mean, I am very fond of the Baseball Tarot but I'm not sure it'd be a good starter deck, and that's seriously playing to stereotype anyway.  Maybe your kid doesn't like baseball like I do, etc.)

There are Tarots that partake of the "standard" RW symbolism or close variations on it, which might be useful for broader adaptability, since that will transfer well to many other decks.  (I think Aeclectic will let you sort through for decks that are RW-compatible, if I'm remembering right.)

The thing with decks is that they're very personal, and the way they react to people is also personal.  I had a deck that gave me the sorts of feedback you might get from a kindergartener - sometimes totally brilliant in that Evil Overlord Checklist 'run my plans by a six-year-old child' way, sometimes totally not getting the point - and I have an ex who used the same deck and got the reliable "grow up and handle your shit" straight talk sorts of readings from it.

He might resonate really well with some artwork, and not others.  I like strong color in my decks, but I find the standard RW extremely jarring in its color choices, for example.  Talk with him; go through Aeclectic, perhaps, and see what sorts of art seems to work for him.
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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #5 on: March 29, 2016, 12:23:41 am »
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What would be a good deck for a boy?

He likes the art of Shadowscapes. That one has been on my Tarot want list for a long time.

Can decks be shared?

 
You could always go classic and go for the Rider-Waite-Smith? Since so many modern decks are based on it, it can be a really wonderful starting point.

Otherwise I say just let him pick one that he likes the art of. The Shadowscapes is awfully nice. I probably wouldn't share it, myself, because I remember what I was like when I was a teenager and I know that having my very own deck was a huge deal. It was something that was entirely mine, and that feeling of independence is so important at that age.

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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #6 on: March 29, 2016, 03:47:33 pm »
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I think that depends a lot on what sort of things he's interested in.

Talk with him; go through Aeclectic, perhaps, and see what sorts of art seems to work for him.

 
He likes anime. He was never interested in sports. For his last birthday we let him rescue a puppy from animal control. He's really emotionally aware and way more grown up then I was at 12-13. I'm not raising him as a pagan. My husband and I decided to let our kids choose their own paths.

We've looked at many Tarot sites. I think I'm going to get the Illuminati and Shadowscapes and let him pick which one he wants.

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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #7 on: March 29, 2016, 04:04:21 pm »
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You could always go classic and go for the Rider-Waite-Smith? Since so many modern decks are based on it, it can be a really wonderful starting point.

Otherwise I say just let him pick one that he likes the art of. The Shadowscapes is awfully nice. I probably wouldn't share it, myself, because I remember what I was like when I was a teenager and I know that having my very own deck was a huge deal. It was something that was entirely mine, and that feeling of independence is so important at that age.

 
I let him take a couple of my Oracle decks into his room to look at. I'm not a card reader for others anymore. I use the Archeon for as a story starter, to get over writer's block, and in plot twists. I use the Paulina for personal readings. Thoth is used on its own terms or for ritual purposes.

I understand that some people collect decks and don't associate personalities with them. My kid may be one of those people. He may be asking me for a deck because one of his friends wants one and his/her parents refused. He may think of it as a novelty and never use it.

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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #8 on: April 05, 2016, 10:43:26 am »
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I let him take a couple of my Oracle decks into his room to look at. I'm not a card reader for others anymore. I use the Archeon for as a story starter, to get over writer's block, and in plot twists. I use the Paulina for personal readings. Thoth is used on its own terms or for ritual purposes.

I understand that some people collect decks and don't associate personalities with them. My kid may be one of those people. He may be asking me for a deck because one of his friends wants one and his/her parents refused. He may think of it as a novelty and never use it.

 
You can't go wrong with Rider-Waite, or you could take him shopping to a store that has a variety of decks and see what he responds to.

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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #9 on: April 05, 2016, 03:53:26 pm »
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You can't go wrong with Rider-Waite, or you could take him shopping to a store that has a variety of decks and see what he responds to.

 
Thank you for responding. We did go to the book store to look at the decks, but the ones they had were over priced. There were many Doreen Virtue affirmation decks, not a lot of Tarot. The only deck he was interested in was the Steampunk Tarot, but he said he liked the Shadowscape art better.

I had the Rider-Waite years ago; the deck walked away, as did the Mage Tarot. I had a bad break-up with a vindictive bastard. So many things left with him.

I ordered the two decks he liked last week and they should get here today. He can choose the deck he likes the most.

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Re: First deck for a 13 year old boy
« Reply #10 on: May 10, 2016, 03:59:40 pm »
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I ordered the two decks he liked last week and they should get here today. He can choose the deck he likes the most.

 
Our puppy got the Shadowscapes Tarot. Most of the cards are salvageable, but it is so annoying when she destroys our stuff. I'll order a new deck when we can afford the extra expense. I hope she out grows the eating everything that fits in her mouth stage soon.

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