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Miscellaneous Religious Discussions / Re: Seeing spiders/things?
« Last post by Aisling on Yesterday at 08:04:48 pm »
Hey everyone,

New here, but went looking for likeminded people to ask!

My daughters (2 and 9) change a bit who complain about seeing something at night in the doorway to our room. The youngest can't explain it obviously, but the oldest says she sees a huge spider in the doorway (Like two adult palms size)
I don't see anything when they complain, but they obviously see something, and it scares the crap out of them. My youngest had her last round last night, where she scrambles shrieking over me in bed while pointing at the door crying "It scared me!"

Any ideas?
I've ordered some sweet grass and sage to smudge our space out, as well as some tourmaline, fluorite, smoky quarts, amethyst, and rose quartz.

Hi paganmama and welcome to TC!

Please reconsider smudging indoors if you have little ones in the house.  There's the obvious concern about their breathing in the smoke (doubly so for children with allergies or asthma).  Also, the smell of burning sage is less than comforting for kids who are already upset or scared.

Some alternative things that you could do:
  • Create a banishing spray by making a decoction using the sage and sweetgrass, along with lavender and chamomile.  Add a few drops of an essential oil that has a pleasant, calming smell (e.g., orange, peppermint, lemon, or lavender). Put the decoction into a spray bottle can produce a fine mist and use the pray to clear the area.  For good measure, you can drop small crystals into the bottle.  '
    If you think it would be helpful for the kiddos, get them involved, call it monster-b-gone (or something that resonates with them), have them decorate the bottle, and let them spray it under your supervision.  You'll get the benefits of the banishing and the aromatherapy that will help to create a sense of calm. 
    Note: Put it out of the kids' reach when not in use, so there's no risk of them spraying it on something that they shouldn't - like each other.
  • Create an energy trap near the area where the kids are seeing the thing. It doesn't need to be complicated - a small cup or eggshell  filled with salt with something shiny partially buried in it, like a crystal or silver coin. When the activity subsides, remove the trap from the house.
  • If you think it's more a case of overactive imaginations than anything actually there, you can give the kids a confidence boost by creating a tool for them to use when they see the thing.  For example, a wand,a bell, or a 'monster trap' (box) that they can use with a sing-song rhyme like "Monster, monster, go away.  Monster, Monster, we don't want to play." 
  • If they're seeing it as a spider, help them to make a 'web' out of string or twine outside to give the spider a new home and have them chase it out of the house by singing, banging on pans, or using the spray.
  • Along the same lines, a friend does a 'bath ritual' with their kids whenever there's been a lot of negativity.  Basically, it's a big noisy bubble bath party for the kids (with bath bombs or bubbles that are laced with lavender or other calming herbs and flowers).  They sing, dance, and make lots of noise as they walk through the whole house on their way to the bath.  During the bath, the kids get to draw pictures on the tub wall with soap crayons, including pictures of the monster.  When the bath is over, they use the shower spray to wash away the pictures and talk about how the water rinses the monsters down the drain.  When finances permit, the kids get new pj's to wear after the bath (because new clothes make it harder for the monsters to find you, doncha know?).  It goes a long way to calming the girls down and giving them a sense of control over the situation.
  • However, if you think there is something more than their imaginations, you may want to skip straight to a banishing ritual like the Less Banishing Ritual of the Pentagram or an alternative that fits with your path. I would recommend doing it at a time when the kids are out of the house so that you can a) fully focus on the banishing and b) just in case it puts up a fight.  Also, kids tend to be like batteries for little astral critters so you'll want to deprive it of its energy source and then kick it out while it's down. After it's cleared out, shore up or create household wards.

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Social Discussion Forums / Re: Recently Blogged
« Last post by Kylara on Yesterday at 03:47:57 pm »
I'm really excited about my post today!  I recently started a new practice to encourage variable daily practice as I've been wanting to expand my daily work, but a strict scheduled thing just wasn't working for me.  In this blog, I show off my new Witchy log and how I've started using it!

They say letter writing is a lost art, but it's something that many witches still do...at least in spell work.  Why not expand your letter writing skills and try your hand at Writing letters to your ancestors?
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Paganism For Beginners / Re: Wiccan Principles and childhood trauma
« Last post by Micheál on Yesterday at 02:07:31 pm »
Thank you - and funny enough I'm watching the above video by Thorn Mooney as we speak - found it after watching a video on Yvonne Aburrow's YT channel :D
Brilliant! :)
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Paganism For Beginners / Re: Wiccan Principles and childhood trauma
« Last post by Fallen_Angel on Yesterday at 02:01:48 pm »
No worries at all! :)

And totally understandable, skyclad definitely isn't for everyone. It is a part of Gardnerian and Alexandrian Wicca (also more blurred in the UK as we frequently mix and circle together), but there are also many other religious witchcraft traditions out there, and also many aspects of Wicca you can adopt in your personal practise.   

For research though I'd highly recommend Thorn Mooney's "Traditional Wicca A Seeker's Guide" for better perspectives on Skyclad, and a lot of others things with Wicca. She has a good video YouTube dealing with Skyclad and trauma as well (generally)


Thank you - and funny enough I'm watching the above video by Thorn Mooney as we speak - found it after watching a video on Yvonne Aburrow's YT channel :D
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Paganism For Beginners / Re: Wiccan Principles and childhood trauma
« Last post by Micheál on Yesterday at 01:54:13 pm »
Thanks for your reply, and for the book recommendation and those links. I like the look of some of her other books too, so will have to add them to my reading list :)

The Two Chalices Ritual is really lovely and it's nice to see inclusivity in Wiccan practices. I don't think I would find the Chalice and Athame symbolism problematic in terms of my past experiences, but I would likely have difficulty if practices were Skyclad, which I understand they are in Gardnerian and Alexandrian Wicca? Or has that evolved over time as well?
No worries at all! :)

And totally understandable, skyclad definitely isn't for everyone. It is a part of Gardnerian and Alexandrian Wicca (also more blurred in the UK as we frequently mix and circle together), but there are also many other religious witchcraft traditions out there, and also many aspects of Wicca you can adopt in your personal practise.   

For research though I'd highly recommend Thorn Mooney's "Traditional Wicca A Seeker's Guide" for better perspectives on Skyclad, and a lot of others things with Wicca. She has a good video YouTube dealing with Skyclad and trauma as well (generally)
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Paganism For Beginners / Re: Wiccan Principles and childhood trauma
« Last post by Fallen_Angel on Yesterday at 01:08:19 pm »
Though it's not fresh in my mind even though I've re-read that book about a year ago, I think it was more generally stated as I wouldn't consider it a principle. Also, especially in the UK, Wicca is very much inclusive nowadays. For a book that might help understand this much more, I'd highly recommend Yvonne Aburrow's  All Acts of Love & Pleasure: Inclusive Wicca," and if not able, she has some good vids on her YouTube channel as well.

As an example, I've had the privilege of witnessing this brilliant adaptation a couple of times https://dowsingfordivinity.com/2018/11/06/the-two-chalices-ritual/

Thanks for your reply, and for the book recommendation and those links. I like the look of some of her other books too, so will have to add them to my reading list :)

The Two Chalices Ritual is really lovely and it's nice to see inclusivity in Wiccan practices. I don't think I would find the Chalice and Athame symbolism problematic in terms of my past experiences, but I would likely have difficulty if practices were Skyclad, which I understand they are in Gardnerian and Alexandrian Wicca? Or has that evolved over time as well?
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Paganism For Beginners / Re: Wiccan Principles and childhood trauma
« Last post by Micheál on Yesterday at 12:50:29 pm »
CW: mention of sexual abuse

Hi everyone,

I'm currently reading Thea Sabin's book 'Wicca for Beginners' which I'm really enjoying and the principles and practices are ticking a lot of boxes for me in terms of my existing beliefs and what practices I would like to incorporate into my life.

Where I'm a bit 'stuck' is with the Wiccan principle 'Sex is Sacred'.

I'm not saying I don't believe this. However, I experienced sexual abuse as a child and I have struggled with intimacy for many years (I'm in my 40s now). I have had intimate relationships, and am in one now, but I find intimacy very difficult.

Part of me wonders whether Wicca might be a path for me to explore these difficulties further and reframe my thinking about them. However, in Thea's book she says if someone has a problem with the 'Sex is Sacred' principle then Wicca probably isn't for them. I wondered if my difficulties would therefore rule me out of Wicca if I am unable to reconcile them?

Thoughts welcome, thank you.
Though it's not fresh in my mind even though I've re-read that book about a year ago, I think it was more generally stated as I wouldn't consider it a principle. Also, especially in the UK, Wicca is very much inclusive nowadays. For a book that might help understand this much more, I'd highly recommend Yvonne Aburrow's  All Acts of Love & Pleasure: Inclusive Wicca," and if not able, she has some good vids on her YouTube channel as well.

As an example, I've had the privilege of witnessing this brilliant adaptation a couple of times https://dowsingfordivinity.com/2018/11/06/the-two-chalices-ritual/
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I was considering buying this book and wondered if anyone on here has read it, or anything else by Jason Mankey?

If so, what are your thoughts about the author and/or his work?

Thanks in advance!  :)
I'd definitely recommend it, and Jason Mankey in general. It's good for the background, getting into the elements of ritual, and has options for solitary and groups rites. He creates good rituals too. I've fairly recently read is latest "The Horned God if the Witches" which has nice rituals too.
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Philosophy and Metaphysics / Re: Would eternal life increase the fear of death?
« Last post by Kylara on Yesterday at 12:14:43 pm »
I feel called out LOL.

The author I quoted also suggested that immortality would mean the end of art, based (as far as I can tell) solely on that Woody Allen quote, paraphrased, 'I don't want to achieve immortality through my art, I want to achieve it by not dying.' And somehow that got extrapolated into all art being a substitute for physical immortality. My art major self has Some Words about this, few of which are polite.

The bewildering thing about the author is that this person has a PhD in History; how does he understand *people* so poorly? Diversity of behavior is pretty much a hallmark of humanity. That would no doubt apply to approaches to immortality (and art) as much as anything else.

I think art would be amazing if people had more time to work on it!  I would love to do more art, but it often gets set aside for more pressing matters.  Imagine how good people would get with centuries to refine their style and skills...

I think some people see history more as statistics.  I used to hat history in school, because I had some teachers that focused on just the dates and numbers, it was all kinda dry and felt flat to me.  It wasn't until I started realizing that the stories of the people were also history that I really began to like it (still not my favorite subject, because way too many dates...but I love the stories!)
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Miscellaneous Religious Discussions / Seeing spiders/things?
« Last post by paganmama on Yesterday at 10:34:44 am »
Hey everyone,

New here, but went looking for likeminded people to ask!

My daughters (2 and 9) change a bit who complain about seeing something at night in the doorway to our room. The youngest can't explain it obviously, but the oldest says she sees a huge spider in the doorway (Like two adult palms size)
I don't see anything when they complain, but they obviously see something, and it scares the crap out of them. My youngest had her last round last night, where she scrambles shrieking over me in bed while pointing at the door crying "It scared me!"

Any ideas?
I've ordered some sweet grass and sage to smudge our space out, as well as some tourmaline, fluorite, smoky quarts, amethyst, and rose quartz.
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