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Taking a break...
« on: September 27, 2011, 11:04:05 am »
My boyfriend told me last night that he wants to "take a break"...We've been together for three years, and I had always hoped that nothing like this would ever have to happen.  Honestly, I'm a complete wreck.  I feel like I've done something wrong.  But I know he's been depressed for awhile and he hasn't been getting help for it, yet he gets on me about getting help for my problems...I don't know what to feel.  I'm upset, and he's upset, and both of us could use some positive energy...I want him to feel better, and I need to grow so that we can be together again...Gods, I just hope he doesn't find someone else and decide he doens't want me back...
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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #1 on: September 27, 2011, 11:28:55 am »
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I'm sorry to hear this. You've got all the energy and light I can give you.:) Take care of yourself.
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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #2 on: September 27, 2011, 05:26:15 pm »
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My boyfriend told me last night that he wants to "take a break"...

 
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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #3 on: September 27, 2011, 05:31:29 pm »
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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #6 on: September 27, 2011, 08:09:28 pm »
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My boyfriend told me last night that he wants to "take a break"...

 
Oh no. I'm sorry Kitty. I hope it's not a perm thing.

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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #8 on: September 28, 2011, 01:59:08 am »
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My boyfriend told me last night that he wants to "take a break"...We've been together for three years, and I had always hoped that nothing like this would ever have to happen.  Honestly, I'm a complete wreck.  I feel like I've done something wrong.  But I know he's been depressed for awhile and he hasn't been getting help for it, yet he gets on me about getting help for my problems...I don't know what to feel.  I'm upset, and he's upset, and both of us could use some positive energy...I want him to feel better, and I need to grow so that we can be together again...Gods, I just hope he doesn't find someone else and decide he doens't want me back...

 
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Re: Taking a break...
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My boyfriend told me last night that he wants to "take a break"...We've been together for three years, and I had always hoped that nothing like this would ever have to happen.  Honestly, I'm a complete wreck.  I feel like I've done something wrong.  But I know he's been depressed for awhile and he hasn't been getting help for it, yet he gets on me about getting help for my problems...I don't know what to feel.  I'm upset, and he's upset, and both of us could use some positive energy...I want him to feel better, and I need to grow so that we can be together again...Gods, I just hope he doesn't find someone else and decide he doens't want me back...

 
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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #11 on: September 28, 2011, 06:48:44 pm »
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My boyfriend told me last night that he wants to "take a break"...We've been together for three years, and I had always hoped that nothing like this would ever have to happen.  Honestly, I'm a complete wreck.  I feel like I've done something wrong.  But I know he's been depressed for awhile and he hasn't been getting help for it, yet he gets on me about getting help for my problems...I don't know what to feel.  I'm upset, and he's upset, and both of us could use some positive energy...I want him to feel better, and I need to grow so that we can be together again...Gods, I just hope he doesn't find someone else and decide he doens't want me back...

 
I know that I'm new here and we don't know each other and you may not want advice from a stranger, but this is from my heart:
Just because he needs a break doesn't mean he loves you any less. He may just need time to sort things out in his head and deal with his own issues without dragging you down with him. He may be doing this for you...not that it hurts any less or makes you feel any better. Do you see what I'm saying? I hope you don't think I'm being an butt for saying this but I know he has to love you! I hope you don't think I've over-stepped my bounds, but depression is a horrible disease that tears people apart and I know that you are in  lot of pain and that makes me want to give a great big hug. Be strong and be patient. And also, if possible, be his friend.
If you need ANYTHING I am here and I am sorry if I have said the wrong thing, but I just really care about people when they are in pain. I will light a healing candle for you, if that's ok with you?
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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #12 on: September 29, 2011, 01:00:42 pm »
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I know that I'm new here and we don't know each other and you may not want advice from a stranger, but this is from my heart:
Just because he needs a break doesn't mean he loves you any less. He may just need time to sort things out in his head and deal with his own issues without dragging you down with him. He may be doing this for you...not that it hurts any less or makes you feel any better. Do you see what I'm saying? I hope you don't think I'm being an butt for saying this but I know he has to love you! I hope you don't think I've over-stepped my bounds, but depression is a horrible disease that tears people apart and I know that you are in  lot of pain and that makes me want to give a great big hug. Be strong and be patient. And also, if possible, be his friend.
If you need ANYTHING I am here and I am sorry if I have said the wrong thing, but I just really care about people when they are in pain. I will light a healing candle for you, if that's ok with you?

 
Thank you so SO much for this.  You have no idea how wonderful this makes me feel.  I think you just made my day.  *hugs you tight*  The both of us have things that we need to work out on our own, and this is the time to take care of those things.  But the fear that someone else will come along doesn't go away, you know?
<3 Rest in peace, Christiana. I love you so much, and I miss you like crazy already. At least you\'re not hurting anymore...May you ascend. <3

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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #13 on: September 29, 2011, 02:04:37 pm »
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 But the fear that someone else will come along doesn't go away, you know?

 

That fear will, unfortunately, stick with you for a while. I wish I had words to make you feel better about that, but unfortunately I would only make it worse. Just be strong and patient! I know I said that earlier, but it's all I've got for you right now. Just remember that if you need to talk you know where to find me!
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Re: Taking a break...
« Reply #14 on: September 29, 2011, 02:16:06 pm »
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That fear will, unfortunately, stick with you for a while. I wish I had words to make you feel better about that, but unfortunately I would only make it worse. Just be strong and patient! I know I said that earlier, but it's all I've got for you right now. Just remember that if you need to talk you know where to find me!

 
*hugs*  Thank you so much.
<3 Rest in peace, Christiana. I love you so much, and I miss you like crazy already. At least you\'re not hurting anymore...May you ascend. <3

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