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Severe Stress
« on: July 14, 2018, 01:37:04 am »
Really needing some TLC that nobody  in my life is giving  right  now.  I'm  having trouble with one of the supervisors at my new job taking an obvious dislike to me, and when I  suggested I might go to HR, instead of being supportive or just leaving it a simple advice to wait until I  have more time in and can  gather some evidence before making  waves ( which might be a reasonable course), my parents,  particularly  my father whom I  really  wish I  could go  no-contact with but have never  been able to fully avoid, completely ripped me a new one with all the most  triggering things he could think of and made it clear he's not going to leave me alone on this at all. "For my own good", of course, though  every positive  change I've  ever made has been through  ignoring his advice, though he never fails to take credit in spite of all evidence to the  contrary.  I'm  really struggling and on edge here.

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Re: Severe Stress
« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2018, 08:18:38 am »
Really needing some TLC that nobody  in my life is giving  right  now. 

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Re: Severe Stress
« Reply #2 on: July 14, 2018, 11:53:06 am »
Really needing some TLC that nobody  in my life is giving  right  now.  I'm  having trouble with one of the supervisors at my new job taking an obvious dislike to me, and when I  suggested I might go to HR, instead of being supportive or just leaving it a simple advice to wait until I  have more time in and can  gather some evidence before making  waves ( which might be a reasonable course), my parents,  particularly  my father whom I  really  wish I  could go  no-contact with but have never  been able to fully avoid, completely ripped me a new one with all the most  triggering things he could think of and made it clear he's not going to leave me alone on this at all. "For my own good", of course, though  every positive  change I've  ever made has been through  ignoring his advice, though he never fails to take credit in spite of all evidence to the  contrary.  I'm  really struggling and on edge here.
I am really sorry about your father. That is just not acceptable for a parent to be like that.

As for the supervisor, if you are having problems with them, by all means go to HR. If a work environment is toxic, it can destroy your entire life after a while. And doing so is none if your father’s goddamned business.

Take a deep breath and do what is right for you.



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Re: Severe Stress
« Reply #3 on: July 14, 2018, 07:10:58 pm »
Really needing some TLC that nobody  in my life is giving  right  now.

(((((Ashmire)))))

I second what Owl said.

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