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Author Topic: Relationship problems -- I need support.  (Read 1331 times)

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Relationship problems -- I need support.
« on: February 27, 2013, 12:08:41 pm »
Hey, friends.

My girlfriend and I have been going through a really rough patch recently. The night before last we were up til three, and last night up til four, having was essentially amounted to... massive communication failure. (Part of us was both of us being stubborn and hurt, but part of it was that we were literally not understanding each other and it wasn't until after a few hours of angry, frustrated talking that something clicked and we finally got it.) We're okay-er now, and I'm sure you'll all be pleased to know that the relationship isn't in danger. I know I am.

I'm exhausted and I know she is too. I've pretty much spent the past two nights crying and having no idea what I was doing wrong or what I should be doing right. My silverware drawer is completely empty and I just want a hug.

I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.

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Re: Relationship problems -- I need support.
« Reply #1 on: February 27, 2013, 12:30:07 pm »
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My silverware drawer is completely empty and I just want a hug.

I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.


A virtual hug and a little energy are on their way!

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« Reply #2 on: February 27, 2013, 12:43:27 pm »
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« Reply #3 on: February 27, 2013, 12:59:26 pm »
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My girlfriend and I have been going through a really rough patch recently.


It happens to everyone, hang in there!

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Re: Relationship problems -- I need support.
« Reply #4 on: February 27, 2013, 01:57:53 pm »
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Hey, friends.

My girlfriend and I have been going through a really rough patch recently. The night before last we were up til three, and last night up til four, having was essentially amounted to... massive communication failure. (Part of us was both of us being stubborn and hurt, but part of it was that we were literally not understanding each other and it wasn't until after a few hours of angry, frustrated talking that something clicked and we finally got it.) We're okay-er now, and I'm sure you'll all be pleased to know that the relationship isn't in danger. I know I am.

I'm exhausted and I know she is too. I've pretty much spent the past two nights crying and having no idea what I was doing wrong or what I should be doing right. My silverware drawer is completely empty and I just want a hug.

I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.

Danny

 
I am really glad y'all are still together. Sending you both hugs and all the energy I can spare. (((((((((SAGEIKINS)))))))))
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« Reply #5 on: February 27, 2013, 02:17:22 pm »
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All the hugs I have.  ((((((Danny)))))

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« Reply #6 on: February 27, 2013, 02:27:24 pm »
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Hey, friends.

My partner and I went through a rough patch recently for often similar reasons, it's so exhausting I know

Things will improve. Hugs and well wishes for you.
« Last Edit: February 27, 2013, 02:29:29 pm by Hayley »

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« Reply #7 on: February 27, 2013, 02:30:13 pm »
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It happens to everyone, hang in there!

 
Yep.  You're a tough guy Danny, you'll get through it.  

Have you two considered couples' counseling?  Or maybe get a book on communication and read it to each other.
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« Reply #8 on: February 27, 2013, 02:40:12 pm »
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I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.

Danny

(((Danny))) all the hugs I've got and I'll light a candle with prayers to Brighid for you.

Occasionally my husband and I have these miscommunications where we just don't understand each other. Something that I've found helps is to write to him. When I try to explain myself in writing I find it forces me to be clearer and think carefully about what I say. He writes back and we have a whole conversation like that.

It also forces me to slow down and I can take things back. I find that particularly helpful because I can be very sarcastic and when I'm hurt I can lash out with that. When I read things like that back I realise that's I'm being hurtful and that I don't really mean it. It gives me a chance to make sure that I'm bring respectful and loving in what I say.

I hope some of that helps. Even if it just reassures you that you're not alone.
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« Reply #9 on: February 27, 2013, 03:15:54 pm »
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My silverware drawer is completely empty and I just want a hug.

I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.

 
(((Danny)))

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« Reply #10 on: February 27, 2013, 03:34:31 pm »
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Hey, friends.

My girlfriend and I have been going through a really rough patch recently. The night before last we were up til three, and last night up til four, having was essentially amounted to... massive communication failure. (Part of us was both of us being stubborn and hurt, but part of it was that we were literally not understanding each other and it wasn't until after a few hours of angry, frustrated talking that something clicked and we finally got it.) We're okay-er now, and I'm sure you'll all be pleased to know that the relationship isn't in danger. I know I am.

I'm exhausted and I know she is too. I've pretty much spent the past two nights crying and having no idea what I was doing wrong or what I should be doing right. My silverware drawer is completely empty and I just want a hug.

I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.

Danny

 
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« Reply #11 on: February 27, 2013, 04:04:56 pm »
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I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.


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« Reply #12 on: February 27, 2013, 05:51:54 pm »
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...but part of it was that we were literally not understanding each other ...

Unfortunately, this happens with Lyric and I more often than either of us would like. ::Sending good thoughts your way::
« Last Edit: February 27, 2013, 05:54:22 pm by RandallS »
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« Reply #13 on: February 27, 2013, 06:20:01 pm »
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{{{{{Danny & Girlfriend}}}}}

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« Reply #14 on: February 27, 2013, 07:01:15 pm »
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I would appreciate any energy, prayers, or magic you want to toss my way.

Danny


Big hugs to you!

Sounds exhausting but also like there are two people willing to communicate and that's cool. Cheers to you both!

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