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My Grandfather
« on: May 20, 2012, 01:30:48 pm »
My mother's father is not doing well.

Last fall we found out he'd been put on oxygen 24/7, and wasn't strong enough to care for the horses he loves. He's still on air, and still paying a local kid to care for the horses, and things are getting worse.

In no particular order: there is probably cancer in his lungs, but the asbestosis makes it difficult to tell. He just had a cancerous growth removed from his temple. He's got eye surgery scheduled at the end of the month to reduce glaucoma pressure. He's in Wyoming and the rest of the family is in CT, and we're all just keeping our heads above water- we can't afford to take time off to take care of him, or even just visit, really. The doctor says the humidity in the northeast will make his asbestosis worse and make him die sooner so he's not coming back.

In a nutshell: he's elderly, he's sick, he's in pain, he's alone, and he's afraid. And his family is anxious and sacred and helpless. Any good vibes, peace of mind, anything, for him especially would be deeply appreciated.
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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #1 on: May 20, 2012, 01:58:48 pm »
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If we can't support one another . . .

::hugs:: Mantras for your grandfather and his family members.
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« Reply #2 on: May 20, 2012, 02:01:37 pm »
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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #3 on: May 20, 2012, 03:22:29 pm »
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My mother's father is not doing well.

 
I'm sorry that you're all in such a difficult situation. I'll be thinking of him.

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« Reply #4 on: May 20, 2012, 06:53:24 pm »
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My mother's father is not doing well.

::good thoughts for your grandfather out west and his family back east::
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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #5 on: May 20, 2012, 07:23:33 pm »
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In a nutshell: he's elderly, he's sick, he's in pain, he's alone, and he's afraid. And his family is anxious and sacred and helpless. Any good vibes, peace of mind, anything, for him especially would be deeply appreciated.

 
May your grandfather be comforted knowing how much his family loves him.
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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #6 on: May 20, 2012, 08:37:29 pm »
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My mother's father is not doing well.

Last fall we found out he'd been put on oxygen 24/7, and wasn't strong enough to care for the horses he loves. He's still on air, and still paying a local kid to care for the horses, and things are getting worse.

In no particular order: there is probably cancer in his lungs, but the asbestosis makes it difficult to tell. He just had a cancerous growth removed from his temple. He's got eye surgery scheduled at the end of the month to reduce glaucoma pressure. He's in Wyoming and the rest of the family is in CT, and we're all just keeping our heads above water- we can't afford to take time off to take care of him, or even just visit, really. The doctor says the humidity in the northeast will make his asbestosis worse and make him die sooner so he's not coming back.

In a nutshell: he's elderly, he's sick, he's in pain, he's alone, and he's afraid. And his family is anxious and sacred and helpless. Any good vibes, peace of mind, anything, for him especially would be deeply appreciated.

 
Good thoughts on their way!

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« Reply #7 on: May 20, 2012, 09:10:58 pm »
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((((Juni and grandfather))))

Y'all are in my thoughts and prayers. What a difficult situation.
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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #8 on: May 20, 2012, 11:40:18 pm »
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My mother's father is not doing well.

In a nutshell: he's elderly, he's sick, he's in pain, he's alone, and he's afraid. And his family is anxious and sacred and helpless. Any good vibes, peace of mind, anything, for him especially would be deeply appreciated.

 
Love to your grandfather and to all of yours and you.

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« Reply #9 on: May 21, 2012, 05:11:27 pm »
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In a nutshell: he's elderly, he's sick, he's in pain, he's alone, and he's afraid. And his family is anxious and sacred and helpless. Any good vibes, peace of mind, anything, for him especially would be deeply appreciated.

 
(((Juni, Grandfather & family)))

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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #10 on: May 21, 2012, 11:14:57 pm »
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In a nutshell: he's elderly, he's sick, he's in pain, he's alone, and he's afraid. And his family is anxious and sacred and helpless. Any good vibes, peace of mind, anything, for him especially would be deeply appreciated.

 
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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #11 on: May 23, 2012, 12:41:06 pm »
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Thanks everyone.

I just got some news from my mother: he is getting worse. His feet are swollen, he's having muscle weakness, and having symptoms that he had before his last heart stent was inserted. He says he won't be able to pass the stress test before his eye surgery as he is now. He has an appointment with his cardiologist soon, and might be having a third stent inserted. We are all, obviously, worried and stressed. I don't know if he's strong enough to survive another major surgery.
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« Reply #12 on: May 23, 2012, 01:50:17 pm »
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Thanks everyone.

I just got some news from my mother: he is getting worse. His feet are swollen, he's having muscle weakness, and having symptoms that he had before his last heart stent was inserted. He says he won't be able to pass the stress test before his eye surgery as he is now. He has an appointment with his cardiologist soon, and might be having a third stent inserted. We are all, obviously, worried and stressed. I don't know if he's strong enough to survive another major surgery.


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« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2012, 02:35:17 pm »
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We are all, obviously, worried and stressed. I don't know if he's strong enough to survive another major surgery.


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Re: My Grandfather
« Reply #14 on: June 20, 2012, 11:09:08 am »
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A few days ago, my grandfather passed out in his kitchen. We're not sure how long he was out, but he called 911 and got brought to the hospital by ambulance. After days of phone tag to find out what's going on, we learned he's been coughing up blood for a few days- which is apparently due to his asbestosis- and hasn't been eating well for months.

My mother and aunt flew out there last night, and about 10 minutes after their arrival in the wee hours of the morning, he had to be intubated because of breathing issues. Right now they're doing a procedure to check his lungs for infection. My uncles are driving out, and they expect to make it to the hospital tonight.

I have a feeling in the pit of my stomach that this is the end. And that's okay. But if anyone could spare some energy, some thoughts, to help him hold on until my uncles get there- so everyone can say goodbye- I'd be deeply appreciative.

Thanks, everyone. For everything.
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