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Hi, y'all. I know I've been AWOL for several weeks. Here's the good stuff going on in my life:

1) Successfully climbed out of a serious bout of depression. When did the sky turn that lovely shade of blue?!
2) Done with summer classes and have a month to relax and work!
3) Getting involved with Pagan Pride Day in my area!
4) Ponies

The bad stuff:

The college kicked me off campus for the month of no summer school and won't let me move into my dorm room for this fall even though I and my roommate are already in the area. I want to keep my job and social commitments in the area (PPD planning stuff, coven stuff, friend stuff) and I do NOT want to go back to my hometown for a month, where I'd have to return to Food Lion to work and essentially be isolated from everyone but family. Yuck. So, to stay for free in Roanoke... I'm staying with my mother's mother.

My grandmother is... interesting. She's got depression and ADD but refuses to take her prescribed medication for either of them. She's racist and homophobic as hell. She hovers. She's demeaning towards everyone she's ever in contact with. She goes through stuff and suitcases (meaning that most of my Pagan books had to be relocated elsewhere). She thinks my parents are going to hell for converting to Presbyterianism. And everything, everything in the world has to do with her. She's the center of the cosmos, after all.

Anyway, first order of business in my return to TC after my impromptu vacation: ask for prayers and support while I'm living with this... woman who happens to be genetically related to me.
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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #1 on: July 31, 2011, 06:01:12 pm »
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Yay for the good stuff, ((((hugs)))) for the bad. Might want to consider a locking suitcase or something similar, if the need for privacy becomes too terrible. Good Luck! :cf:
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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #2 on: July 31, 2011, 08:54:18 pm »
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Hi, y'all. I know I've been AWOL for several weeks. Here's the good stuff going on in my life:

1) Successfully climbed out of a serious bout of depression. When did the sky turn that lovely shade of blue?!
2) Done with summer classes and have a month to relax and work!
3) Getting involved with Pagan Pride Day in my area!
4) Ponies

The bad stuff:

The college kicked me off campus for the month of no summer school and won't let me move into my dorm room for this fall even though I and my roommate are already in the area. I want to keep my job and social commitments in the area (PPD planning stuff, coven stuff, friend stuff) and I do NOT want to go back to my hometown for a month, where I'd have to return to Food Lion to work and essentially be isolated from everyone but family. Yuck. So, to stay for free in Roanoke... I'm staying with my mother's mother.

My grandmother is... interesting. She's got depression and ADD but refuses to take her prescribed medication for either of them. She's racist and homophobic as hell. She hovers. She's demeaning towards everyone she's ever in contact with. She goes through stuff and suitcases (meaning that most of my Pagan books had to be relocated elsewhere). She thinks my parents are going to hell for converting to Presbyterianism. And everything, everything in the world has to do with her. She's the center of the cosmos, after all.

Anyway, first order of business in my return to TC after my impromptu vacation: ask for prayers and support while I'm living with this... woman who happens to be genetically related to me.

 
Kudos for the positives!  Especially #1 since that sure as hell ain't easy.  I do like how the world goes into "High-Def" when this happens.

As for grandma... my condolences on that.  It sounds truly nightmarish.  Can you setup any boundaries with this woman?  It's seriously messed up that she cannot respect anyone's privacy and therefore you have to hide things (although that's probably the best option in the interests of keeping the peace.)
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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #3 on: July 31, 2011, 09:06:59 pm »
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((((Ellen)))) Ah, the joys of family. I hope it all works out better than you expect. And congrats on having lots of good stuff going on at the same time as this.

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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #4 on: July 31, 2011, 11:37:41 pm »
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Jeez, it sounds like living with the Dursleys, with less entertainment value.

((((hugs)))) Will be praying for you to survive living with...family. (I have trouble believing some of my relatives are related to me as well.)
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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #5 on: August 01, 2011, 01:46:46 am »
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Kudos on the good stuff!  Hugs and virtual triple chocolate chip cookies for the bad stuff. I wonder if your grandmother is related to my MIL?

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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #6 on: August 01, 2011, 01:51:24 am »
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Jeez, it sounds like living with the Dursleys, with less entertainment value.

((((hugs)))) Will be praying for you to survive living with...family. (I have trouble believing some of my relatives are related to me as well.)

 
Sounds like my MIL, too. I'll be thinking of you. {{{Ellen}}}
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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #7 on: August 01, 2011, 07:22:20 am »
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Anyway, first order of business in my return to TC after my impromptu vacation: ask for prayers and support while I'm living with this... woman who happens to be genetically related to me.


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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #8 on: August 01, 2011, 07:40:45 am »
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Just remember, it's better than the alternatives ....

Take her as an object lesson of who you never want to be.  :p

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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #9 on: August 01, 2011, 12:24:43 pm »
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Anyway, first order of business in my return to TC after my impromptu vacation: ask for prayers and support while I'm living with this... woman who happens to be genetically related to me.

 
Very big congrats on all the good - most especially #1!!!  I think your grandmother and my mother are long lost twins so (((((((hugs)))))) if you need a venting board you've got one!  Will keep you in my thoughts through all this!
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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #10 on: August 01, 2011, 06:54:33 pm »
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My grandmother is... interesting. She's got depression and ADD but refuses to take her prescribed medication for either of them. She's racist and homophobic as hell. She hovers. She's demeaning towards everyone she's ever in contact with. She goes through stuff and suitcases (meaning that most of my Pagan books had to be relocated elsewhere). She thinks my parents are going to hell for converting to Presbyterianism. And everything, everything in the world has to do with her. She's the center of the cosmos, after all.

[[[[Ellen]]]] Thank the Gods you only have to put up with that for a month.
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Re: Living with a super-conservative Baptist grandmother for a month
« Reply #11 on: August 01, 2011, 06:57:29 pm »
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My grandmother is... interesting. She's got depression and ADD but refuses to take her prescribed medication for either of them. She's racist and homophobic as hell. She hovers. She's demeaning towards everyone she's ever in contact with. She goes through stuff and suitcases (meaning that most of my Pagan books had to be relocated elsewhere). She thinks my parents are going to hell for converting to Presbyterianism. And everything, everything in the world has to do with her. She's the center of the cosmos, after all.

Anyway, first order of business in my return to TC after my impromptu vacation: ask for prayers and support while I'm living with this... woman who happens to be genetically related to me.


If she were Methodist instead of Baptist, I'd swear you and I were cousins. And I'm staying with mine at the moment, too. *hugs* I feel your pain.
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