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Author Topic: I have to ask for your help on this one  (Read 2182 times)

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Re: I have to ask for your help on this one
« Reply #15 on: January 21, 2012, 01:47:13 pm »
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Thanks for replying. At least someone gives a shit!

His career is an issue. I think what his current unit is intending is for him to do a 'short tour' of two years in Alaska with his current deployment counting as one of those years. BUT what they are telling him is that they are giving him is a 'compassionate reassignment' which is not at all what they are giving him.

I am scared that if he stirs shit in the current climate that he may get booted out so I don't know whether we should just suck it up and just deal with what his unit is willing to do. It is so fucking disturbing!!!

I am so disheartened right now....

 
I think you guys should keep on fighting. Just fight and fight and fight. It shouldn't be right for the government to keep a wife and husband apart!
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Re: I have to ask for your help on this one
« Reply #16 on: January 21, 2012, 04:15:16 pm »
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I think you guys should keep on fighting. Just fight and fight and fight. It shouldn't be right for the government to keep a wife and husband apart!


The problem is that the government is not keeping them apart in thier eyes.  An option was provided for the family to go to another duty station.  Medical issues with one half of the family is what is keeping them apart.  It's actually far more common than many want to believe when you consider that any duty assignment that could be construed as limited in facilities, isolatted in location or access to medical & dental capabiliteis, etc usually requires Command Endorsement along with Command Sponorship to bring ones family there.

A lot of people on the outside usually speak like you do but fail to realize it's a two sided agreement.  It's often equated to the notion that the military promises one a school of training.  Provided access and attendence to said school along with all the materials which the system needs provide to ensure completion of said school.  Then the member fails out of the school for academic failure or physical inability to complete the demands of the school.  Thus does the situation become one of, Did the school & military fail in meeting thier obligation to the contract?  or Did the member fail in thier obligation to meet the contract requirements?

It becomes a hardship in that for each family that encounters an issue and requires special handing the Military is the force that is seen and expected to be the ones who give.  Yet outside of the system they seldom consider that a person is a peg in that he / she is seen as a specific rank level, a specific degree of training with X years of experience in their field, has a given rotation pattern in their deployments, must be able to meet requirements that are driven by additional needs and requirements from a military standpoint.  Though the most critical facet is that there are only so many that can fill the required demand and any time a peg becomes limited in its application due to family needs its a liability vice an asset.

When its a person's time to transfer it means two people are rotating.  The one being relieved and the one being assigned though their maybe a period of overlap or not.  Any holdup affects a whole slew of blocks that are being moved at the same time, its not just the member and their family in consideration.

Though she has a real valid fear at this point.  Make to many waves and he may be told his services are no longer required.  Go to a business and tell them they have to transfer you again and see how quickly you find yourself without a job.  The military from what I see is starting to go into another drawdown period and it's easier to get rid of the squeeky wheel than keep greasing it.

The true bitch of the issue is that those who enter the Military or similiar serve elements ie Coast Guard, know they have to give up many things to serve.  Our families also know they to have to make sacrifices to support our service.  There are periods of seperation that may range from weeks (exercises, etc) to years due to deployments, operational needs, isollated assignments which restrict family co-transfer, etc.  Then factor in the higher one gets in rank or specilized skill sets and the fewer there are to fill those needs and the shuffle becomes even harder if any situations occur.

All this one of the reasons I asked, "How important is her husbands career?"

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Re: I have to ask for your help on this one
« Reply #17 on: January 21, 2012, 06:38:36 pm »
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I think you guys should keep on fighting. Just fight and fight and fight. It shouldn't be right for the government to keep a wife and husband apart!

 
Thanks so much for the support, but monsnoleedra is, unfortunately, right! I wish he weren't, but he is. Still, your support makes me feel better. Knowing that there is one other person out there who cares does the heart good.
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Re: I have to ask for your help on this one
« Reply #18 on: January 21, 2012, 07:44:51 pm »
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Thanks so much for the support, but monsnoleedra is, unfortunately, right! I wish he weren't, but he is. Still, your support makes me feel better. Knowing that there is one other person out there who cares does the heart good.


I would add that there are more people out there that care than you probably realize.  Especially in the military ranks, the problem usually lies in the fact while we care we still have to ensure the job gets done, and the best utilization of available manpower.  As a former Senior NCO I know my people were a major concern and you care deeply about them.  However, many times it comes across as you don't or didn't because we had to look to the larger picture.  A lot of times weighing the fact that the needs of the many outweighed the needs of the few or the one.

As I advised earlier speak to Ft. Bragg's Command Sgt Major or the Command Omnibudsman (not sure what the Army name is) but they act in the stead of the families and liasion between the commands and the spouses to address issues and concerns.  Utilize all of your resources, I recall the Army still had the Army Relief Society for instance.  

Can't change your situation unfortunately but i'll be glad to listen and offer what advise I can.

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Re: I have to ask for your help on this one
« Reply #19 on: January 21, 2012, 10:27:11 pm »
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Can't change your situation unfortunately but i'll be glad to listen and offer what advise I can.

 
Thank you so very much! That means a lot!
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