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Grandfather
« on: July 30, 2019, 02:49:34 pm »
My maternal grandfather will not likely survive a necessary surgery.  Please pray -- or whatever you do -- for his peace, and for the family.

I am very sad, but my grandfather and I discussed it today, and we know all will be well in the end, and he had a good life, nor do I personally believe physical death is evil.

I have missed much time with this grandfather.  His wife was very abusive to me growing up and into adulthood, and I had to cut ties with her, and he wouldn't accept it and because cold toward me.

He asked me to come back last year, and despite never receiving any direct apology, I did come back to make a dying man happy.  I suspect he was sorrowful for the ill treatment I received from them both, and in any case, I forgave.

I do not feel guilt for the missed time because I had to protect myself, but I do feel sorrow that circumstances required it.  But he knows that I love him still, no matter what.

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Re: Grandfather
« Reply #1 on: July 30, 2019, 09:32:49 pm »
My maternal grandfather will not likely survive a necessary surgery.  Please pray -- or whatever you do -- for his peace, and for the family.

I am very sad, but my grandfather and I discussed it today, and we know all will be well in the end, and he had a good life, nor do I personally believe physical death is evil.

I have missed much time with this grandfather.  His wife was very abusive to me growing up and into adulthood, and I had to cut ties with her, and he wouldn't accept it and because cold toward me.

He asked me to come back last year, and despite never receiving any direct apology, I did come back to make a dying man happy.  I suspect he was sorrowful for the ill treatment I received from them both, and in any case, I forgave.

I do not feel guilt for the missed time because I had to protect myself, but I do feel sorrow that circumstances required it.  But he knows that I love him still, no matter what.

I deeply regret that you had such a strained relationship with your grandfather for so long. My maternal grandfather died before I was born, and my paternal grandfather died of cancer when I was about two years old. At least he got the chance to hold me. Fortunately, I did have a very strong and loving relationship with both of my grandmothers.

I will pray for your grandfather in this time of surgery and for the long-term well being of his soul. And yours.
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Re: Grandfather
« Reply #2 on: July 31, 2019, 11:54:05 am »
I deeply regret that you had such a strained relationship with your grandfather for so long. My maternal grandfather died before I was born, and my paternal grandfather died of cancer when I was about two years old. At least he got the chance to hold me. Fortunately, I did have a very strong and loving relationship with both of my grandmothers.

I will pray for your grandfather in this time of surgery and for the long-term well being of his soul. And yours.

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Re: Grandfather
« Reply #3 on: July 31, 2019, 05:45:27 pm »
My maternal grandfather will not likely survive a necessary surgery.  Please pray -- or whatever you do -- for his peace, and for the family.

You, your grandfather, and your family have my prayers.
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Re: Grandfather
« Reply #4 on: August 01, 2019, 01:43:30 pm »
My maternal grandfather will not likely survive a necessary surgery.  Please pray -- or whatever you do -- for his peace, and for the family.

(((EW, grandfather, & family)))

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