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Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« on: September 25, 2013, 12:53:07 pm »
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Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks

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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #1 on: September 25, 2013, 01:31:37 pm »
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Hello,

Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks


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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #2 on: September 25, 2013, 06:55:13 pm »
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Hello,

Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks


Sending you love! I used to be very self-critical (not BDD, but depression and anxiety are familiar). What helped me a little was to cultivate my passions, including learning to play the violin, working with animals, and also finding my own relaxed style. Think of yourself as a beautiful work in progress, and work on health and healing - but try to break away from binary ways of thinking about beauty. For example, I think Benedict Cumberbatch (he plays Sherlock) is gorgeous for his unique looks. He has tilted, ice-blue eyes, an elfin face (he COULD be in the Lord of the Rings very easily). He is notoriously hard on himself, and has referred to himself as horsey...whereas I see 'adorable.' LOVE what makes you unique, and change how you think about a 'flaw' - in fact, do away with the word 'flaw.' I have has serious ulcers that cause swelling and pain. I always thought of that as a bodily flaw; now I think of my stomach like a wounded animal...injured, and in need of some TLC. :)

If there is a legitimate health concern, think about working on natropathic options and getting healthier. If you need to cultivate a healthier diet or exercise - great. But don't beat yourself up for being human! Besides 'perfect' is boring. Since when were your absolute favourite people in life...'perfect'? :)
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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #3 on: September 25, 2013, 06:57:10 pm »
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Hello,

Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks

 
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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #4 on: September 26, 2013, 03:35:19 am »
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Hello,

Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks

 
As someone with depression, I can imagine some of what you're going through. Are you able to get some counseling, or participate in some type of group therapy? It can help; maybe not completely, but even just being able to talk to folks who have similar experiences can make it a little easier to deal with things.

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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #5 on: September 26, 2013, 07:00:56 am »
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Hello,

Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks


Have lit a candle for you - I know how hellish mental illness can be, particularly when you have no support system. I know the American health care system is in shambles, but if you can't hold a job due to your problems then there's likely to be some kind of support available out there (though I know that's an issue in and of itself if you have anxiety).

Good luck out there, and thousands of candles to light your way through your tunnel.
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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #6 on: September 26, 2013, 08:05:19 am »
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Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help.

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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #7 on: September 27, 2013, 08:36:29 pm »
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As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks

 
I used to have this problem too, a lot. The only thing that really helps is to set yourself some boundaries and stick to them. Sit down some day when you have some time alone and think about (and write down!!) what you will not tolerate, and hold yourself to that. You'll find that the people you meet will respect you more for keeping that self respect and you will discover the real friends rather than those who only use. :)

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Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #8 on: September 28, 2013, 05:10:59 am »
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Hello,

Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks
My fiancée has severe depression and anxiety so I can understand how vitally important it is that you get a bit of a boost! I myself have found that its quite possible I am Bipolar. I'm not self-diagnosing yet, but there are symptoms there. I've gone through bouts of depression though, so I know this issue from both ends.

I will be sending you some positive vibes for sure! I can't, in good conscience, finish this post without recommending that you consult with some sort of doctor. Even a primary care physician or GP will have some ideas on how you could get help! In fact, many GPs these days are willing to prescribe antidepressants and antixylotics on their own. Its so important that these symptoms be treated that some of them would rather misdiagnose than miss a genuine case.

So, the energy is good, the fact that you admit you need help is GREAT, but I'd recommend adding the support of a physician, counselor, or psychiatrist. At the least I'd recommend a support group, there are lots of them out there! In any case, you have people online that are here for you as you can plainly see! :)

I hope you feel better in time and come to see that it isn't all bad! Life is a journey, we may as well do our best to enjoy it!

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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #9 on: September 30, 2013, 07:18:38 pm »
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Hello,

Well I think the title sums it up pretty good! I suffer from Body dysmorphic disorder which makes me socially anxious and depressed and I have a failing relationship and absolutely no one to call a friend. Some prayers and good energy my way would be a tremendous help. At 27 I don't see light at the end of my tunnel and I know that it should not be this way because I really do have a ton to be grateful for and I am. I just can never keep anything good around for too long ( job ) due to my insecurities.... As for the friends all I meet are people that use me and when they get what they need they are gone. Please help <3 thanks


I have bipolar type 2, and I can definitely relate to your depression and anxiety. I want you to know that you will recover. As a few have already responded, a mental health professional can get you on the right track. I am so glad I decided to get help; I never thought I could feel well again.

Sending energy your way....and for some reason while I'm typing this I see cats around you.

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((((Hugs,leo8686)))) Sending positive and peaceful energy your way. Hang in there.

 
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« Reply #11 on: October 08, 2013, 07:06:17 pm »
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Sending you love! I used to be very self-critical (not BDD, but depression and anxiety are familiar). What helped me a little was to cultivate my passions, including learning to play the violin, working with animals, and also finding my own relaxed style. Think of yourself as a beautiful work in progress, and work on health and healing - but try to break away from binary ways of thinking about beauty. For example, I think Benedict Cumberbatch (he plays Sherlock) is gorgeous for his unique looks. He has tilted, ice-blue eyes, an elfin face (he COULD be in the Lord of the Rings very easily). He is notoriously hard on himself, and has referred to himself as horsey...whereas I see 'adorable.' LOVE what makes you unique, and change how you think about a 'flaw' - in fact, do away with the word 'flaw.' I have has serious ulcers that cause swelling and pain. I always thought of that as a bodily flaw; now I think of my stomach like a wounded animal...injured, and in need of some TLC. :)



Thank you so much!!!!!!!
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Re: Depression...Alone..BDD..and social anxiety.
« Reply #12 on: October 08, 2013, 07:10:13 pm »
Thank you everyone!

I have been seeing a Doctor ( primary ) for about 3 years. It's time to seek counseling!

I really do appreciate all of the replies <3

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