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Is this wrong?
« on: November 23, 2011, 05:58:33 am »
I found Paganism to be so right for me because it encompasses a lot of beliefs that I have always held close to my heart even before I was sure I was Pagan. Another thing that I liked the idea of was the Gods and Goddesses and the flexibility of the umbrella term "Pagan".
There is one thing I have been thinking about lately however, that makes me wonder if I might be in it (partly) for the wrong reason.

My upbringing was a hard time for me, and as soon as I got the chance to leave my parents and the family members who caused me to hurt, I did. I now very rarely speak to/see my mother and step-father and my sisters that are associated with my mother, for self-protection (My step-father's children I do get on with however and keep in touch with because they understand what I went through and they are wonderful, genuine people).
Because of this, I have had a deep-seated longing for love, safety and stability. I do have an incredible husband who gives me these things, but the versions of them are not parental/maternal and it's just not the same. He understands this.
I know I won't get another set of parents or another family, but I was wondering if I could find those three things in a God, or a Goddess, or both, or multiple... And I was also wondering if this was wrong... like abusing how you should really use/treat a God or a Goddess. I want to be as respectful as I can to any Deity that I feel connected to, so please can you lovely people let me know if what I am seeking is wrong or not, to ask of a Deity?

Thanks all :lub:

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Re: Is this wrong?
« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2011, 06:13:53 am »
Quote from: Raindrops;31439

 
Hmmm sorry about the love smiley not quite sure how that got there LOL

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Re: Is this wrong?
« Reply #2 on: November 23, 2011, 07:34:18 am »
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I think here we run into the issue of ask vs. demand.

If you're ASKING but accepting that you get what you get, I don't think it's unreasonable at all.  We all seek specific things in relationships and form relationships based on those needs.  There's nothing wrong with that.

If you're DEMANDING it and refusing to accept any other kind of relationship, or a parental style relationship that doesn't match your notions of what it "should" look like, THEN it's wrong.  Also likely to blow up in your face.

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Re: Is this wrong?
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2011, 08:01:26 am »
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If you're DEMANDING it and refusing to accept any other kind of relationship, or a parental style relationship that doesn't match your notions of what it "should" look like, THEN it's wrong.  Also likely to blow up in your face.

I think this would be the main issue -- especially since the ideas of a deity as to what one really needs are very likely to clash with what one thinks one needs. Deities tend to provide the former and not care all that much about the latter. Therefore it would probably be best to study up on deities and only try for such a relationship with ones who at least seem to share your ideas.
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Re: Is this wrong?
« Reply #4 on: November 23, 2011, 08:53:35 am »
Quote from: Raindrops;31439

I wouldn't demand, it's not in my nature to anyway, but if I ask and don't get I will not complain, as I am sure any relationship with a Deity would be an elightening and enriching one and I would surely treasure it. I can see how as RandallS has said, forming a relationship with one/s that share my ideas will put me more in with a chance of having a kind of parental relationship... But again I won't y'know.. Push it :p
« Last Edit: November 23, 2011, 09:28:27 am by Marilyn/Absentminded »

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