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Author Topic: Repairing relationships with gods  (Read 865 times)

Euryalus

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Repairing relationships with gods
« on: September 08, 2012, 11:25:43 pm »
So I've kinda been neglecting my duties toward the gods, and my life has gone to Hell since then.  I've gethered that this is Their way of indicating their displeasure, and I'm wondering if there's anything I should to make amends besides/before resuming prayers, offerings, etc.

(The gods I generally worship, specifically, are Inepu, Ra, Sekhmet, Bast, and Djehuty.)

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Re: Repairing relationships with gods
« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2012, 11:52:08 pm »
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So I've kinda been neglecting my duties toward the gods, and my life has gone to Hell since then.  I've gethered that this is Their way of indicating their displeasure, and I'm wondering if there's anything I should to make amends besides/before resuming prayers, offerings, etc.

(The gods I generally worship, specifically, are Inepu, Ra, Sekhmet, Bast, and Djehuty.)

 
I think it happens to everyone once in a while (I know it's happened to me).  I usually just say "Hey, sorry for neglecting you.  I'm gonna get back on track." then go about business as usual.  I suppose you could preform some sort of "expiatory" offering.

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Re: Repairing relationships with gods
« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2012, 11:53:54 pm »
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So I've kinda been neglecting my duties toward the gods, and my life has gone to Hell since then.  I've gethered that this is Their way of indicating their displeasure, and I'm wondering if there's anything I should to make amends besides/before resuming prayers, offerings, etc.

(The gods I generally worship, specifically, are Inepu, Ra, Sekhmet, Bast, and Djehuty.)

 
Perhaps ask them if there's something in particular they want other than resumed offerings and prayers? Apologize, too, maybe, and ask if they want you to resume practices at this point? Though that seems like a given. :)

Personally, I've always just picked up where I left off, but I've also tried to keep Bast and her Ennead "in the loop" with what I'm doing. Wish I could be more help!

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« Reply #3 on: September 10, 2012, 10:05:48 pm »
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So I've kinda been neglecting my duties toward the gods, and my life has gone to Hell since then.  I've gethered that this is Their way of indicating their displeasure, and I'm wondering if there's anything I should to make amends besides/before resuming prayers, offerings, etc.

(The gods I generally worship, specifically, are Inepu, Ra, Sekhmet, Bast, and Djehuty.)

When I go back to practice after a fallow period, I tend to give a brief explanation along with offerings of cool water and/or beer.  

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Re: Repairing relationships with gods
« Reply #4 on: September 11, 2012, 03:38:15 pm »
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So I've kinda been neglecting my duties toward the gods, and my life has gone to Hell since then.  I've gethered that this is Their way of indicating their displeasure, and I'm wondering if there's anything I should to make amends besides/before resuming prayers, offerings, etc.

(The gods I generally worship, specifically, are Inepu, Ra, Sekhmet, Bast, and Djehuty.)

HAHA, I just went through this, myself. Indeed I did. And while my deities are different from yours, you might find what I say helpful, maybe not. Obviously some things will not apply, but here's what I did.

I moved my altar from it's nice little room upstairs in my personal library where I hardly ever went to the bedroom, where I could see it at the beginning of my day and at the end of my day.  I cleaned it off, and as I did, I cleansed it, too, to sort of re-sanctify it.  

I changed my schedule.  Instead of going to the altar whenever I remembered to do it, I now wake up in the morning and give an offering, light incense, and try and just feel them (my gods)  out or at least thank them for their blessings.  At night, I try to sit a little longer and meditate, light a candle, incense.

I apologized.  I tried not to make promises, because I'm human. Those can be broken, and it's the worst when you break a promise to a deity, because even on the off chance that they do understand and forgive? I know I don't understand and forgive myself for it.   So, I just apologized, and tried to listen to them. Not talk and talk and talk about how awful I'd been, and how I was going to do better, and how my life was crap, because they knew that.  I said my peace, and then listened.  And meditated.

And changed my behavior.  For me, it's the doing, not the saying, that has helped mend things.  I can always use improvement, and am working on that each day (at least I hope), but if you're making an effort and are truly sorry? I think it's a good way to start piecing things back together.
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Re: Repairing relationships with gods
« Reply #5 on: September 11, 2012, 06:07:30 pm »
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So I've kinda been neglecting my duties toward the gods, and my life has gone to Hell since then.  I've gethered that this is Their way of indicating their displeasure, and I'm wondering if there's anything I should to make amends besides/before resuming prayers, offerings, etc.

(The gods I generally worship, specifically, are Inepu, Ra, Sekhmet, Bast, and Djehuty.)

 
I neglected my primary deity relationship pretty badly, some years ago, and essentially asked--when I'd taken back up with the prayers and regular small offerings and things still seemed tense and difficult--for insight into what would please Her and indicate my contrition and commitment.  Now, She wasn't as cuddly as some deities are, so it turned out to be a process including a period of fasting and abstinence from some things and a re-dedication initiation ritual and all manner of things.  And, well, truth be told, I went through all of it only to, at the very last choice to rededicate myself, walk away from it.

The walking away initiated a new relationship with another Goddess, though, so.  These things can get complicated.
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Re: Repairing relationships with gods
« Reply #6 on: September 12, 2012, 04:19:11 pm »
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General update:  I made an offering of ice water with mint and basil mixed in to all the gods, plus individual offerings to each of them.  In addition I undertook a vow of total chastity and daily meditation for the next two weeks.  Hopefully They accept this as appropriate penance and my life gets on track.

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