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Hi, um, I'm Kodi.

And I'm really nervous right now to be posting this. Then again, I'm nervous for just about anything. But a lot for this.

Mostly because I'm afraid I'll seem stupid whenever I ask a question and am sorta intimidated, but I've come to realize that if I want to learn more/get help/everything I'm going to need to get over that and ask.

So, with that being said...

I'm not exactly sure how to word this but I'm going to try.

How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

I think the reason I'm wording it like this is because I've heard that there's different experiences and everything. Like, everyone finds out their path and everything in different ways and there is no exact way to find out. I've heard that is.

So, I wanted to ask how you found out instead of asking how do I find out.

Am I making sense or do I seem silly? >.<

One more thing I wanted to mention is that whenever I meditate or anything I see fire. Which probably means nothing at all. I just wanted to mention it.

Thanks in advance for reading/answering. I know that was long. Sorry.
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Re: Really Nervous
« Reply #1 on: October 31, 2011, 06:00:39 pm »
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How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?


See, I think that's a totally smart question - as long as you read the answers with a "What works for other people might not work for me" in mind. (Which it sounds like you're doing, so no worries.)

I usually call this "I prefer to learn from other people, rather than having to do it all on my own."  Knowing how other people did something gives me some better ways to frame choices about how I try it out.

Anyway, to answer your question: I was really logical about it. I spent about a year not practicing my former religion (Catholicism) and doing a lot of thinking about/reading about/poking at what I really wanted, both in terms of the religion itself, and in terms of a lot of associated things (religious community, conversations about religion, focus, etc.)

I eventually came to the decision that it made sense to explore some strand of Paganism first, so I narrowed down my reading a fair bit and started looking for a variety of opportunities (forums, email lists, public rituals and other events in my area, etc.)

I went to a good handful of public rituals, learned some stuff I like (yes to meditation, no to lengthy meditation rituals that include cranky five year olds whose parents don't remove them from the room after a few minutes) I figured out that yes, I did like structure and a certain amount of repetition in my rituals, and that in my case, a lot of what I was looking for probably meant group work.

So then I went looking for groups that might be a possible fit - and two of the first four groups I did an initial contact with pointed me at the third, which is the group I joined, trained with, and the tradition I'm now a 3rd degree in. So, y'know, that worked out.

In terms of questions to look at as you're trying to figure things out, I've got a (very partial: these questions could go on endlessly) here: http://gleewood.org/seeking/reaching-out/questions/ - they cover everything from practical issues to philosophical ones to questions of ritual practice. They're focused on considering group work, but a number of them are also applicable to personal practice in various ways.
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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #2 on: October 31, 2011, 06:14:43 pm »
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Hi, um, I'm Kodi.

And I'm really nervous right now to be posting this. Then again, I'm nervous for just about anything. But a lot for this.

Mostly because I'm afraid I'll seem stupid whenever I ask a question and am sorta intimidated, but I've come to realize that if I want to learn more/get help/everything I'm going to need to get over that and ask.

So, with that being said...

I'm not exactly sure how to word this but I'm going to try.

How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

I think the reason I'm wording it like this is because I've heard that there's different experiences and everything. Like, everyone finds out their path and everything in different ways and there is no exact way to find out. I've heard that is.

So, I wanted to ask how you found out instead of asking how do I find out.

Am I making sense or do I seem silly? >.<

One more thing I wanted to mention is that whenever I meditate or anything I see fire. Which probably means nothing at all. I just wanted to mention it.

Thanks in advance for reading/answering. I know that was long. Sorry.

 
I haven't figured out my own path, but I wanted to pop in anyways. :p

I think an important thing for me is to remind myself there is no rush to figure everything out. I meditate every day, get to know myself, and certain ideas have solidified in my mind. Not enough to really say I have a certain path, but little tidbits here and there.

There's also a lot of material out there! It's not a bad move to start learning about things that interest you or something that has to do with your heritage. It's a starting point, and you can look into other areas when you feel ready.

When I first started really digging into the meat of paganism (mostly religious witchcraft traditions) I got way over excited and bought a lot of books. I came into it with thoughts like "Well I think I'm a soft polytheist..." and now I consider myself a hard polytheist. I was really interested in Nordic things, but now find myself more drawn to greco-roman gods and goddesses. I don't know where I'll be a month, a year, 10 years into the future....but I have plenty of time to figure everything out!

Good luck in your learning and don't be afraid of feedback! Even "mean" criticism can be helpful in some ways. Don't take anything too personally and try to make it into a learning experience.

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #3 on: October 31, 2011, 08:43:03 pm »
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How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

 
When I first heard about Kemeticism, I thought it was super cool and wanted to do it, too. That's... pretty much it.

Of course, I was very young and didn't know that following your own spiritual path, especially a Pagan path, meant doing a lot of research and a lot of studying. I forgot about it for about six years, but then I found myself poking around some old Kemetic groups and sites on the Internet.

I finally got hold of a book, Eternal Egypt by Richard Reidy, which explained Kemetic religious philosophy in a way that I could finally grock it. And everything made sense to me, like it "clicked" in my head.

I've tried reading about other paths and faiths, but nothing calls me quite like Kemeticism does. So that's where I am today.

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #4 on: October 31, 2011, 09:04:31 pm »
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How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?


I kinda accidentally stumbled upon mine. I knew I was polytheistic but I didn't know anything beyond that. After trying to explore some paths after realizing I wasn't Catholic, I just gave up on trying to figure it out. There was a rather significant event for me that led to me finding this path. It felt right back then and it feels right now, so I just kinda go with that. Maybe a few years down the line, it won't be right anymore.

So basically, I just lazily walked into it without actually knowing what I was doing and since it was the first thing that felt right, I just went with it. Took three years to find it, but from what I hear from others, that's actually pretty quick.

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #5 on: October 31, 2011, 09:05:52 pm »
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When I first heard about Kemeticism, I thought it was super cool and wanted to do it, too. That's... pretty much it.

Of course, I was very young and didn't know that following your own spiritual path, especially a Pagan path, meant doing a lot of research and a lot of studying. I forgot about it for about six years, but then I found myself poking around some old Kemetic groups and sites on the Internet.

I finally got hold of a book, Eternal Egypt by Richard Reidy, which explained Kemetic religious philosophy in a way that I could finally grock it. And everything made sense to me, like it "clicked" in my head.

I've tried reading about other paths and faiths, but nothing calls me quite like Kemeticism does. So that's where I am today.

 

For me it was a slow process.  I was raised Catholic but when I moved away to college I met some of my closest friends and they very much were NOT into Christianity.  They were all pagans but some of the most intelligent, easy going, and accepting people I had ever met.  So I started learning about alternative faiths and began questioning what I had been forced into religion-wise.  I got into studying about all kinds of stuff - from Wicca, to Taoism, to whatever else - including atheism.  But I never could settle on one thing.  My Catholic upbringing was (is) still pretty ingrained and it doesn't want to go away quietly - kind of like a bad girlfriend that needs a restraining order.

It wasn't until last year (almost 15 years after I began learning about other pagan paths), that I had discovered Kemeticism at a pagan pride day.  I met some really great people and started to slowly learn more and more about it.  Eventually I got Reidy's Eternal Egypt and it was like I got hit with a baseball bat and it screamed "this is totally for me!"  Since then, it's been a hell of a ride.
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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #6 on: October 31, 2011, 09:52:01 pm »
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Hi, um, I'm Kodi.

Welcome to TC, Kodi!

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How did you find out which path you should take?

I tried out a few different paths. I read a lot, spun my wheels a lot, stalled out frequently. I knew about FlameKeeping for a few years before I realized it was right for me.

For me, it wasn't 'look at the map and easily identify which path was the right one'. It was 'wander a ways down a bunch of different paths and try them all out'.

I think the reason it was so hard for me was that I had been looking at practices but not the foundation. Nothing seemed quite right because there was no substance to tie it all together. Hopefully this analogy will make sense: the entire path is like a Lite-Brite. I was digging through all the colorful pegs and seeing which ones I liked, but I didn't have the foundation, the board, to plug them into. So they were useless. With a solid foundation (FlameKeeping) I can add the pegs (practices) and make a complete picture(path).

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #7 on: November 05, 2011, 08:17:16 am »
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How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

 
Those are not silly questions. They're (A) pretty normal and (B) a perfectly good set of questions.

I found my path kind of by a mix of accident and "oh this seems like a good idea." After being introduced to paganism, it didn't take me long to start moving toward a more ancient Egyptian arena of my practice. I had been SOOMGINLOVE with everything ancient Egypt for years and years and years. It made sense to look in that direction for deities and beliefs and ideas. So, in my case, I went with something that I already loved. As a history buff, I think, it made it easier for me to find my path.

Does that help?
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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #8 on: November 05, 2011, 10:31:43 am »
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How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

 

Well, I'm really still choosing my path to be honest.  But it hasn't been quick or simple.  I sort of floated about referring to myself as a kitchen witch for ages, without really exploring what Pagan paths I was drawing from for years.

I came to realise I'd been surrounded by Norse stuff my whole life.  Among the mementoes of my father my mum kept when he died, the two I was given were a glass Viking ornament and a beautifully illustrated Beowulf book.  The only other thing was a copy of Masquerade by Kit Williams.  I also had my stepfather, who called me his Viking spontaneously one day and still does now, and who got a tattoo "of me" that is a hugely muscular, hammer-wielding warrior with my name tattooed on his arm.  There were a lot of other things as well.  My other half doesn't strictly follow a Norse path, but he knows a lot of the stories and wooed me partly by telling me them.

It occurred to me there could be a subtle hint being waved my way, and the idea immediately appealed to me, so I've started exploring that path while leaving my options open.

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #9 on: November 07, 2011, 11:30:52 am »
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How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

 
You don't sound silly at all, and those are great questions. I started by walking away from my childhood/young adult faith and not replacing it with anything for quite awhile (I was a little annoyed - an over-reaction I know now, but hey I was 18ish and over-reacted to a lot of things at the time.)

When I finally acknowledged that the lack of religion/spirituality in my life was causing me issues, I sat down with a pad of paper and wrote out what I believed to be my beliefs.  Turns out it was quite a long list.  Then I took that list and started searching for possible fits in various religions.

That was a long time ago, and my list continues to evolve. I've found it very helpful to re-create the list every couple of years. I'm shocked sometimes at how much my belief system has evolved since that first list based on experiences I've had now.

And I continue to meander a little ways down paths as they come to me. Some paths I end up turning around right away because something conflicts right away. Other paths are more comfortable and I travel further before branching off.  I've found the journey to be fascinating.

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #10 on: November 07, 2011, 01:03:20 pm »
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Hi, um, I'm Kodi.


Thanks in advance for reading/answering. I know that was long. Sorry.


Don't be afraid of asking questions and opinions! Isn't that what having a forum is all about?!

My path started back when I was 14. A bit of messing with ouija boards with friends could have been the start. I'm not exactly sure, but I discovered I could do automatic writing. From there, lots and lots of reading and research. It wasn't a quick process and I'm not finished. So much to learn, so much to understand.

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #11 on: November 12, 2011, 09:09:21 am »
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Hi, um, I'm Kodi.

And I'm really nervous right now to be posting this. Then again, I'm nervous for just about anything. But a lot for this.

Mostly because I'm afraid I'll seem stupid whenever I ask a question and am sorta intimidated, but I've come to realize that if I want to learn more/get help/everything I'm going to need to get over that and ask.

So, with that being said...

I'm not exactly sure how to word this but I'm going to try.

How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

I think the reason I'm wording it like this is because I've heard that there's different experiences and everything. Like, everyone finds out their path and everything in different ways and there is no exact way to find out. I've heard that is.

So, I wanted to ask how you found out instead of asking how do I find out.

Am I making sense or do I seem silly? >.<

One more thing I wanted to mention is that whenever I meditate or anything I see fire. Which probably means nothing at all. I just wanted to mention it.

Thanks in advance for reading/answering. I know that was long. Sorry.

 
I went back and forth for many years- first it was Wicca, then it was nothing at all, then it was Wicca again, then I was just pagan, then I was Wiccan again. :) I found myself continually falling back to Wicca over a number of years, and thats how I knew Wicca was my path.
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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #12 on: November 12, 2011, 12:41:34 pm »
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Hi, um, I'm Kodi.

And I'm really nervous right now to be posting this. Then again, I'm nervous for just about anything. But a lot for this.

Mostly because I'm afraid I'll seem stupid whenever I ask a question and am sorta intimidated, but I've come to realize that if I want to learn more/get help/everything I'm going to need to get over that and ask.

So, with that being said...

I'm not exactly sure how to word this but I'm going to try.

How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

I think the reason I'm wording it like this is because I've heard that there's different experiences and everything. Like, everyone finds out their path and everything in different ways and there is no exact way to find out. I've heard that is.

So, I wanted to ask how you found out instead of asking how do I find out.

 
My whole family is very Christian - we practically own our local church - but it never felt right for me.
I ended up learning about Wicca when I was about 11 (bit of an early bloomer, eh?) and stuck to that for a good number of years.

Again it wasn't quite right...but it felt like I was getting warmer in terms of what would be right for me.

I took a step back, and finally I got drawn to the Norse side of things by Loki and that's where I've been since. Turns out I loved the Norse tales as a child and I would spend hours just looking at one particular picture of Loki. Any doubts I've been having seem to be taken care of by Sigyn, and Odin's been known to appear every so often in my dreams - so I believe this is where I belong.

No everyone finds their path straight away; it's very much a case of trial and error until something clicks. Could be instant, could take years or some could still be looking. Do what ever works best for you - keep that in mind. :)

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One more thing I wanted to mention is that whenever I meditate or anything I see fire. Which probably means nothing at all. I just wanted to mention it.


Not too sure about that one, but here's the two that came to mind:

A) Some people can sense their aura, in terms of a white ball around them. Sometimes an aura looks more fire-like then a glowing ball. When we meditate, some of the energy risen is transferred to our auras to strengthen it. It could be your simply seeing your energy/aura as this happens.

B) Depending on what you're thinking during or before meditation, it could be a direct result or answer to that. For example: if you were thinking about finding a patron god, the fire could be a visual hint as to which one it might be.
Try asking questions before hand - like a hint in finding your true spiritual path - and seeing what crops up.
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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #13 on: November 12, 2011, 08:18:35 pm »
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Hi, um, I'm Kodi.

And I'm really nervous right now to be posting this. Then again, I'm nervous for just about anything. But a lot for this.

Mostly because I'm afraid I'll seem stupid whenever I ask a question and am sorta intimidated, but I've come to realize that if I want to learn more/get help/everything I'm going to need to get over that and ask.

So, with that being said...

I'm not exactly sure how to word this but I'm going to try.

How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?

I think the reason I'm wording it like this is because I've heard that there's different experiences and everything. Like, everyone finds out their path and everything in different ways and there is no exact way to find out. I've heard that is.

So, I wanted to ask how you found out instead of asking how do I find out.

Am I making sense or do I seem silly? >.<

One more thing I wanted to mention is that whenever I meditate or anything I see fire. Which probably means nothing at all. I just wanted to mention it.

Thanks in advance for reading/answering. I know that was long. Sorry.

 
I'm going to sum this up for you: Find out what is good, proper material with trustworthy information via the internet (like this forum); studystudystudy; ask lots of questions no matter how silly you think they are - someone else is bound to have the same question!

I'm fairly "new" to my beliefs as well. I'm studying around to firm up everything, and hope to someday be able to do rituals and such. Look around at the different religions and cultures built around them. There's a lot out there, so find what seems to interest you most and call for help in narrowing down what seems to suit your lifestyle (and ideas) best.

This may be trial and error type of situation for you. But have no fear! Your deities, I'm sure, will be forgiving, patient, and understanding as your find your path. :)

I myself started out as a Baptist. I grew up believing Heaven was lined with gold - streets and all. It was extremely glorified and after awhile, along with many other reasons, it got old and just didn't fit me as a person, so I moved on and began my research.

So again, you'll just have to study a lot and ask even more questions. Quite a few of us here are learning right along your side, so you'll be doing a few of us favors by asking! :D

I hope you find your way.

Blessed be.

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Re: How did you find out which path you should take? (was Really Nervous)
« Reply #14 on: November 13, 2011, 10:54:21 am »
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How did you find out which path you should take? Was there anything significant or was it  a "Oh, this seems like a good idea." type thing? How did you know your path was the right one(if you do know that is)?



I'm also curious to hear my answers to do this. For me, it's kind of been a bit of blundering in the dark. I'll read about something, try it for myself, and see how well it does or doesn't work. It's a lot of trial and error for me.

I'm trying to listen to ideas that seem silly to me, like offering Bast thin mints. I guess this is "listening to your intuition"...but sometimes its hard to sort out intuition and personal dumb ideas.

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