Let's talk about patron deities.

[Zlote Jablko]

The problem as I see it is the term "patron deity" is overloaded. There are two separate definitions. In many ancient Pagan religions a deity was a patron of certain professions and activities and that deity was therefore a patron of those who followed those professions or were otherwise involved in those activities. In many cases there was overlap, that is there were multiple deities (even within a pantheon) who acted as patron of a given profession or activity. In this version of patron deity, the deity did not choose followers, the followers chose them -- and likely changed choices at various times in their lives. 

The other meaning is the one most people on Pagan forums tend to use, where a specific deity selects a specific person for some specific reason/need of the god and acts as that person's patron at least so long as it serves the deity's needs to do so. In myhology, at least, this tended to be rare and not always in the person's best interest.

Chances are a deity is not going to specially select you and make you his or her servant/pet (which is a fairly accurate description of this type of patron deity relationship). The 95-99% of people who aren't lucky/unlucky enough top be chosen should select there own patron or patrons under the first meaning of the term -- IMHO, at least.

Yeah, Perun is probably my “patron” for lack of a better word, and the way he shows it is apparently by selectively knocking out my power as soon as I do a ritual without him. (At least last time.)

For me any deity who communicates is one who is likely trying to enter into a kind of reciprocal relationship. A patron or host if you will. But “communication” can mean many things. It’s not necessarily based on love. And even if it is, it might just be a mutual love for them!