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Olivia

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Crisis of faith
« on: January 10, 2014, 04:00:01 pm »
Maybe that isn't the best way to describe it. I'm not sure if I'm posting this is the right spot of the board either. The past two weeks have been really really difficult for me. I'm starting to have doubts about a lot of things. I'm trying to find a way to rediscover my spiritual self that I feel like I'm losing. What do you do when you start to feel doubt?

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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #1 on: January 10, 2014, 04:16:10 pm »
Quote from: Olivia;135870
Maybe that isn't the best way to describe it. I'm not sure if I'm posting this is the right spot of the board either. The past two weeks have been really really difficult for me. I'm starting to have doubts about a lot of things. I'm trying to find a way to rediscover my spiritual self that I feel like I'm losing. What do you do when you start to feel doubt?

 
Sometimes stepping away from everything and taking a break helps.
Sometimes it helps to take a closer look at the doubts.

What is it, that does not feel right anymore? Where does it come from?
Aren't they maybe just a sign of a changing perception?
Because that can happen a lot on a life-long path.

In your place (and I've been there), I'd write it down to ponder it and to force all those feels and thoughts out in the open and into words. Helps to see clearer.
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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #2 on: January 10, 2014, 08:57:13 pm »
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Sometimes stepping away from everything and taking a break helps.
Sometimes it helps to take a closer look at the doubts.

I agree with Tana, there is no one way I've found to deal with doubt. What works one time for me may not work at all the next time. I have found that finding the real source of the doubt will often lead me to a way to resolve it. Sometimes, BTW, resolving doubt means (at least for me) admitting that having doubts is okay.
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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #3 on: January 10, 2014, 11:37:49 pm »
Quote from: Olivia;135870
Maybe that isn't the best way to describe it. I'm not sure if I'm posting this is the right spot of the board either. The past two weeks have been really really difficult for me. I'm starting to have doubts about a lot of things. I'm trying to find a way to rediscover my spiritual self that I feel like I'm losing. What do you do when you start to feel doubt?

 
Looking at your doubts will help your spiritual self grow.  It is neither bad nor good just life. You make keep some things, let go of others, or change them, and/or find something new.
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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2014, 01:50:35 am »
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Sometimes stepping away from everything and taking a break helps.
Sometimes it helps to take a closer look at the doubts.

What is it, that does not feel right anymore? Where does it come from?
Aren't they maybe just a sign of a changing perception?
Because that can happen a lot on a life-long path.

In your place (and I've been there), I'd write it down to ponder it and to force all those feels and thoughts out in the open and into words. Helps to see clearer.

 
Thank you everyone. I have taken your advice and stepped back for a few days. I've really been evaluating my feelings and while I still have some stuff to work through I do feel a little better. I'm trying to accept my doubts but that is hard for me. This is the first time I've had any serious trouble with my faith since I started on my path and it has really shaken me. I've never realized how much external events can shake my beliefs before. Again thank you everyone. Reading this board has been a comfort and help to me the last few days.

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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #5 on: January 15, 2014, 12:40:00 pm »
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Looking at your doubts will help your spiritual self grow.  It is neither bad nor good just life. You make keep some things, let go of others, or change them, and/or find something new.

 
Agreed.

PERSONALLY (I do not want to offend anyone here, so I'm making sure that I'm not saying it's 100% truth all the time, any other way is wrong... etc.) I think that being able to doubt and question yourself and your beliefs is a great way to really "find yourself" or at least map out what  you believe in, or what you don't. Stagnancy breeds stagnancy- so I think it's healthy to have these moments to reevaluate things.

Sorry for the rant. =)
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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #6 on: February 23, 2014, 04:23:06 pm »
Quote from: Olivia;135870
Maybe that isn't the best way to describe it. I'm not sure if I'm posting this is the right spot of the board either. The past two weeks have been really really difficult for me. I'm starting to have doubts about a lot of things. I'm trying to find a way to rediscover my spiritual self that I feel like I'm losing. What do you do when you start to feel doubt?

 
This happens to me on a periodic basis and more often than not I am bending myself out of shape in response to others' expectations or how others interpret their beliefs instead of listening to myself.  Other times I am experiencing depression and anxiety and then do not think clearly about my beliefs or practices.  When this passes over I almost always realize my anxiety was more the problem than anything else.

Of course sometimes we simply change and may need to rethink a belief or practice.  Anxiety can affect how we are thinking about our beliefs, but sometimes the belief itself is causing anxiety.

You might consider how your beliefs translate into practice, whether that practice is beneficial, and then evaluate the belief based on what results you are getting.  Sometimes it helps to look at an old belief in a new way, too.

Just take a step back until your head and emotions can clear.  Then you will be able to think more clearly.  Often times I will say mantras or meditate when I have this issue because I tend to overthink it and I often discover the root of the issue is different from what I thought my problem initially was.

Hope that helps.  I have struggled with this of late too and have had a rough time.  But this too shall pass.
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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #7 on: February 23, 2014, 04:53:47 pm »
Quote from: Olivia;135870
Maybe that isn't the best way to describe it. I'm not sure if I'm posting this is the right spot of the board either. The past two weeks have been really really difficult for me. I'm starting to have doubts about a lot of things. I'm trying to find a way to rediscover my spiritual self that I feel like I'm losing. What do you do when you start to feel doubt?

 
I am a constant doubt-ridden mess. I think the phrase "crisis of faith" describes me 99% of the time.

Even Mother Teresa struggled with doubt so much for the last half of her life, she said she felt like a hypocrite. She also said, "I feel just that terrible pain of loss, of God not wanting me, of God not being God, of God not really existing.”

So I think doubt is just something people struggle with, some more than others. I am firmly split between belief, and believing nothing exists after we die. I struggle with the latter so much, despite the countless and continuing experiences of various gods, angels, and spirits. So even having experieinces that should firmly cement my spiritual beliefs, does not work for me.

I agree with RandallS - for me, too, admitting that having doubts is okay is my number one way of coping with all the doubt. Acknowledge the doubt, and then move on and do things as if it did not exist, anyway.

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Re: Crisis of faith
« Reply #8 on: February 23, 2014, 07:29:45 pm »
Quote from: Olivia;135870
Maybe that isn't the best way to describe it. I'm not sure if I'm posting this is the right spot of the board either. The past two weeks have been really really difficult for me. I'm starting to have doubts about a lot of things. I'm trying to find a way to rediscover my spiritual self that I feel like I'm losing. What do you do when you start to feel doubt?

 
I do not know if this would help, but I know when I am confused about things, I sit down, think and make a list of things. I make a list of things that I know about myself, about what I can do, who I am as a person, and what I believe, and then I work things out from there, and it usually does help me quiet a bit. Again I do not know if that'll help at all, but I thought I'd bring it up.
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