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Re: Unitarian Universalism
« Reply #15 on: November 27, 2011, 09:53:28 pm »
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*snippy snip snip*

Is the community really diverse? Do some of the member openly declare what believe (in my congregation there are about 50 people who self identify as Pagan, usually 8 to 12 show up for events).  

As for LGBT are they there? If so how comfortable are they?  Do they have a voice?

Ask different people, see how you feel, most importantly do not rush.

 
I did speak with around 10 people in the "hang out" room after the service. I did not press them about their specific beliefs, but they seemed quite warm and welcoming. I didn't know if I'd be considered intrusive to ask certain questions to the regular members.One of the ministers also spoke to me, but he was helping a lot of people today so I didn't get to ask the questions I had planned. I do plan on popping my head in again, so I'll ask my questions then hopefully!

I might just be being overly cautious with how I'm approaching things. I'm used to being silent and observing how people are before I engage them in certain topics.

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Re: Unitarian Universalism
« Reply #16 on: November 27, 2011, 10:09:32 pm »
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Were there just none there, or did someone tell you there aren't many in the congregation? (Because it's Thanksgiving weekend, I'm wondering if many of the people in their 20s - not yet married/having their own family traditions - might have been more likely to be travelling.

It's also often true that people in their 20s are less active in religious community than people either younger or older than they are: a lot of people come back to find a community when they have kids, or when they get into a stage in their life where they're no longer making likeminded friends through college/people early in their careers who go out after work/etc.)

(Which isn't to say it's not worth looking for places that do have an active young adult type program - just that what you saw is not uncommon across a range of religions and communities.)

I've learned a lot from the older people in my life - my best friend is 15 years older, and a number of other people I spend time with are about the same age. Once I got over about 22-24, it stopped being such a big difference.


One of the men I was speaking to said something along the lines of," There's a couple of youngsters around here, so you won't be totally alone!" So I'm guessing there just isn't too many.

I'm never around older people(50+), so I guess it's kind of a fear.The only elderly people I've ever been around early in my life were raised in an environment that was conservative and were always shocked at how my generation behaved. People in their 30's and 40's I feel eased around,though. This is definite a personal flaw in my mentality I need to work on.


 
 
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There's more info about the welcoming congregation process here: http://www.uua.org/lgbt/welcoming/program/

As I understand it (not being UU), it's a process congregations have to decide to go through, and there are some congregations that deliberately welcome and seek out LGBT diversity in various ways, but just for whatever reason haven't gone through the formal steps. (don't have anyone with spare time/energy to focus on it, have been focusing in other areas, etc.) Only way to know why for sure is to ask.

 
Ah, I see. I guess I really am too cautious! I need to let my guard down some. :p

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Re: Unitarian Universalism
« Reply #17 on: November 27, 2011, 10:26:49 pm »
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I might just be being overly cautious with how I'm approaching things. I'm used to being silent and observing how people are before I engage them in certain topics.

 
Ask if the have newcomers classes.  They usually are 60 to 90 minutes (depends on how many people attend). My congregation hold three classes, the topics cover UU History, my Congregation's History, Membership requirements, and exceptions of members.

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Re: Unitarian Universalism
« Reply #18 on: November 27, 2011, 10:37:29 pm »
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Ask if the have newcomers classes.  They usually are 60 to 90 minutes (depends on how many people attend). My congregation hold three classes, the topics cover UU History, my Congregation's History, Membership requirements, and exceptions of members.

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Good call!  OP, most UU congregations have newcomer classes where you can ask all the questions you want--a lot of times if there's an order of service or program handed out, there's a listing for it?  (Also, bulletin boards might have the info.)  UU churches tend to be full of converts to UUism, so they are used to questions and explaining.  That might be really helpful.
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Re: Unitarian Universalism
« Reply #19 on: November 27, 2011, 11:05:31 pm »
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Ask if the have newcomers classes.  They usually are 60 to 90 minutes (depends on how many people attend). My congregation hold three classes, the topics cover UU History, my Congregation's History, Membership requirements, and exceptions of members.

If you care to PM me.

They do offer newcomer classes. 3-4 times a year! I missed the last one it seems.  http://www.eastshoreunitarian.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=section&layout=blog&id=11&Itemid=58

I don't see newcomer classes on the other church's sites, but I'll definitely ask!
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