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Severing a Connection.
« on: March 22, 2012, 12:53:48 pm »
So, the Sister was in a toxic relationship for years. They would go back and forth, on again and off again. Since 2009 or so, The Sister, our ex-coven mate, and myself have done our best to break the connection between the two of them. This working has been primarily focused on the removal of a pink, quartz heart that the guy in question gave to her for Valentine's at some point. No matter what we've done with this thing, it keeps coming back. We've thrown it out. We've left it behind in moves. I've hidden it. It just keeps coming back. And it's time to remove this connection once and for all.

The Sister will be bringing me the recently re-found heart. I just don't know what to do with it. I really would love to smash it with a hammer, but I get the feeling that could lead to really bad things happening. Right now, it's sitting in a container of salt. How in the hell do I sever this connection without anything coming back to harm the Sister?
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #1 on: March 22, 2012, 12:57:51 pm »
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Honestly, I would put it in a sock and smash it to pieces. It's a symbol of their relationship, yes? Not of either of them specifically. Obliterate it so it stops popping up and bothering her. You could always do some warding spell or charm to divert fallout.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #2 on: March 22, 2012, 01:33:00 pm »
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So, the Sister was in a toxic relationship for years. They would go back and forth, on again and off again. Since 2009 or so, The Sister, our ex-coven mate, and myself have done our best to break the connection between the two of them. This working has been primarily focused on the removal of a pink, quartz heart that the guy in question gave to her for Valentine's at some point. No matter what we've done with this thing, it keeps coming back. We've thrown it out. We've left it behind in moves. I've hidden it. It just keeps coming back. And it's time to remove this connection once and for all.

The Sister will be bringing me the recently re-found heart. I just don't know what to do with it. I really would love to smash it with a hammer, but I get the feeling that could lead to really bad things happening. Right now, it's sitting in a container of salt. How in the hell do I sever this connection without anything coming back to harm the Sister?



how about a mirror box? this way it reflects things back, that way if it is something the ex has done it will just be flung back to him.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #3 on: March 22, 2012, 04:46:05 pm »
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I wouldn't smash it either.
For now, put it in salt and in a plastic bag.

Gemstones can be cleared of any programming - usually.
Let me think about that case for a bit, I'll get back to you.

(A pic of the heart would help me, can you mail me one?)
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #4 on: March 22, 2012, 05:27:20 pm »
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The Sister will be bringing me the recently re-found heart. I just don't know what to do with it. I really would love to smash it with a hammer, but I get the feeling that could lead to really bad things happening. Right now, it's sitting in a container of salt. How in the hell do I sever this connection without anything coming back to harm the Sister?

 
It's probably not the answer you want to hear, but you may not be able to sever the ties without some repercussions for the Sister.  Severing connections can be tricky business, particularly if one or the other person is still holding on to some part of the relationship.

FWIW, my impression about the stone is this:  It keeps boomeranging back to her because there is some unfinished business between the two of them that needs to be resolved.  Considering the stone in question is rose quartz, I'll hazard a semi-educated guess that there's still a good deal of emotional healing and/or release that needs to be done... by her. Until that work is done, I wouldn't try to destroy the stone itself - just the opposite, keep it safe and well protected.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #5 on: March 22, 2012, 07:12:02 pm »
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FWIW, my impression about the stone is this:  It keeps boomeranging back to her because there is some unfinished business between the two of them that needs to be resolved.  Considering the stone in question is rose quartz, I'll hazard a semi-educated guess that there's still a good deal of emotional healing and/or release that needs to be done... by her. Until that work is done, I wouldn't try to destroy the stone itself - just the opposite, keep it safe and well protected.

 
You know. This... is something. I'll talk to her about it tonight and see what she says.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #6 on: March 22, 2012, 07:44:48 pm »
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You know. This... is something. I'll talk to her about it tonight and see what she says.

 
Good luck! I might be way off base but the conversation might still give you a direction to take this.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #7 on: March 23, 2012, 03:32:54 am »
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I might be way off base but the conversation might still give you a direction to take this.


No, I don't think you are.
I had a similar impression, while thinking about it yesterday.
Will be able to say more, when I've seen the heart in question.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #8 on: March 23, 2012, 05:22:56 pm »
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No, I don't think you are.
I had a similar impression, while thinking about it yesterday.
Will be able to say more, when I've seen the heart in question.

 
I sent the E-mail.

I also posted in my blog about this. There are a lot of suggestions about smashing. I especially liked Morag's of "have her do it!" But there were a few suggestions that rang similar to Aisling's. Since they were few and far between, but they really resonated, I'm thinking that there's something there that needs to be done.

I mentioned to her today that there were a lot of suggestions with astral and meditation, especially searching for any connections therein. She said she'd give it a shot, but she's always been bad with chakras.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #9 on: March 23, 2012, 05:32:59 pm »
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I sent the E-mail.


Got it.
It's late now and I just took a quick glimpse.

I'll get back to this tomorrow and then I think I will have an idea or two.
(You're sis does not necessarily need to do 'chakra' ;) There will be another way.)
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #10 on: March 23, 2012, 06:11:53 pm »
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.. The Sister will be bringing me the recently re-found heart. I just don't know what to do with it. I really would love to smash it with a hammer, but I get the feeling that could lead to really bad things happening. Right now, it's sitting in a container of salt. How in the hell do I sever this connection without anything coming back to harm the Sister?


I do not know why but each time I read this I get the image of two magnets.  Two joined in such a way that they pull towards one another which to me makes me think it keeps coming back because of a desire on the Sisters part.

It seems your trying to sever a connection that is a natural connection thus the common pull towards each other.  You can't sever it you have to reverse it so that they repell one another vice drawing to one another.  Crushing the item is going to do nothing but make a bunch of small pieces that are still drawn to each other.  Many small items that can not be reveresed either for the fragments will shatter and spread.  Like glass or fiberglass beneath the skin that only itches and cuts but so small you can't get your hands or fingers around them to pull them out.

I would almost say you have a boom-a-rang in crystal shape.  Yet the desire which binds them is in the hands of the Sister.  Something she is either ignoring on the surface or some emotional attachement she holds, perhaps without even realizing it.  She can't cast it away for she longs for it and calls it to return to her each time.

Until that longing is removed and identified I do not think anything that is done will change it.

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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #11 on: March 24, 2012, 03:49:49 am »
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There are a lot of suggestions about smashing. I especially liked Morag's of "have her do it!"

 
The reason I say have her do it is because she needs to sever the connection. It needs her power behind it.

So smash it, mirror box, keep it...whatever you do to it, she has to. Not you. You can help, but you can't do it for her. Or the connection won't sever.
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #12 on: March 24, 2012, 11:35:47 am »
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The reason I say have her do it is because she needs to sever the connection. It needs her power behind it.

So smash it, mirror box, keep it...whatever you do to it, she has to. Not you. You can help, but you can't do it for her. Or the connection won't sever.

 
The reason she thinks that I'm the ultimate fix is that it was put into her head that she's too weak to handle this. As far as I'm concerned, I'm going to a beach that's nearby to grab a little tub of it. Then I'm going to stick the damn thing in the sand (since it's purifying in Kemetic circles) and leave it in my freezer until she's ready to figure out what she wants to do with it.

Currently, I've written down a bunch of the ideas that really made me think clearly and will invite her out for a coffee or something to discuss it all. I'm just waiting on Tana to get back to me and then, hopefully...
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Re: Severing a Connection.
« Reply #13 on: March 24, 2012, 12:10:35 pm »
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The reason she thinks that I'm the ultimate fix is that it was put into her head that she's too weak to handle this.

 
Yep, there's a chunk of your problem right there.  She's given away her power.  So, among other things, she needs to get it back.
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« Reply #14 on: March 24, 2012, 12:30:58 pm »
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Yep, there's a chunk of your problem right there.  She's given away her power.  So, among other things, she needs to get it back.

 
This. By doing this, she's also relinquishing personal responsibility for the situation.  Until she owns it, she will never be rid of the issue.
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