Considering a love spell

[kaze]

I have been reading all information i can about love spells, and from what i have seen i am actually begining on their effects, and i am actually begining to consider to hire someone with experience to cast one for me has i know nothing on the realm of magic, my situation is like this

Theres this girl that we know each other for years, but we were never all that close as soon as we left highschool, last summer, we remeet, and ever since we started to do everything together, going out, dinners, partys, everything, i was fine with it, i didnt think of it more than a friendship, but, eventually we started to go "deeper" into our friendship and exploring more of it, we became flirty, we joked over with silly situations, after months this way, i started to truly develop feelings for her, when i told her i was begining to like her, i was turned away right away, she said she felt nothing more than friendship for me, i was devastated but i tried to let it go, i tried to get away, but she didnt let me, everytime i tryed to gain distance she contacted me, saying how she didnt want to lose me, how i meant to her, and all those feelings come back, every time i believed i could be friends with her, but i cant, everytime we become friendly, we start going deeper, and we spend some great times together, but then out of sudden, she decides its wrong, and we are only friends.

At this new year, she destroyed me, she invited me for new years eve, she recited this very pretty poem she made for me, we had a great dinner, but then she went cold, and barely spoke to me the whole night after new years, i felt devastated the whole night, at the end of the night she told me, "i wish i really loved you, but i feel no spark with you, it seems i always spend the new years eve with the wrong person"

I have never even looked into the magic world, but, this time, i really gona have to try it, i am just unsure of what i should, i have no experience in this, so i am seriosly thinking of hiring someone to do it instead, i just cant think straight on wich path to choose, if i should cast something to help me forget, if i should cast something to try open her eyes, what would you all suggest me?

[Tana]

OK. My opinion on this matter: stop this relationship.
Get away from her as far as you can and get over her.

She obviously doesn't want more and you are only suffering - this is not good for any of you.

[kaze]

OK. My opinion on this matter: stop this relationship.
Get away from her as far as you can and get over her.

She obviously doesn't want more and you are only suffering - this is not good for any of you.

 
Every instinct in my body tells me to do exactly what you say, but, i am young, and stupid sounds unlikely that i will choose that option

[stephyjh]

Every instinct in my body tells me to do exactly what you say, but, i am young, and stupid sounds unlikely that i will choose that option

If you know it's stupid to continue on the path you're on, don't. If your instincts are telling you something, LISTEN.

[kaze]

If you know it's stupid to continue on the path you're on, don't. If your instincts are telling you something, LISTEN.

 
I am aware of why you are saying that, apart of the things that are going in my head to try are not only unethical, as they are wrong, as all of his can rebound on me, but, i am having a very hard time letting it go, the place i live isnt helpfull either, mostly that i life in a small place, with a very small population, and it doesnt matter where i go, what i do, i will be forced to see her, hear of her for a long time to come, i need to try something..

[stephyjh]

I am aware of why you are saying that, apart of the things that are going in my head to try are not only unethical, as they are wrong, as all of his can rebound on me, but, i am having a very hard time letting it go, the place i live isnt helpfull either, mostly that i life in a small place, with a very small population, and it doesnt matter where i go, what i do, i will be forced to see her, hear of her for a long time to come, i need to try something..

What about a severing spell, to cut the emotional ties you have to her?

[kaze]

What about a severing spell, to cut the emotional ties you have to her?

That would work for me also, what i have for her is extremely bad for me, i cant be , i cant see her, i cant hear of her, without getting hurt anymore, i will consider the severing bond spell, sounds way better than trying a love spell... is there any repercussions in a severing bond spell?

Also i would like to ask, is there anything i can get to help me deal with all these feelings? I know its a bad thing, but i am just so tired of all this situation, anything i can do to feel better is welcome.

[Maps]

Every instinct in my body tells me to do exactly what you say, but, i am young, and stupid sounds unlikely that i will choose that option

 
You know all those social tropes that say men* can't control themselves? Well, they're bullshit. You can. Don't make excuses, especially if you know what needs to be done. If you're going to try attacking this situation with magic, then severance is definitely what you should be going for. IMO, anything else would be setting you up for disaster.

*Even if you're not male, then this still applies.

[RandallS]

If you're going to try attacking this situation with magic, then severance is definitely what you should be going for. IMO, anything else would be setting you up for disaster.

Seconded. Cut the relationship now -- the longer you wait, the harder it will be on you.

[Rhyshadow]

If you're going to try attacking this situation with magic, then severance is definitely what you should be going for. IMO, anything else would be setting you up for disaster.

*Even if you're not male, then this still applies.

 
Thirded

30+ years ago I was where you are now - and I tried to make it work

Hurt me fairly deeply and I was years recovering from that

Do something to end it - in your heart as well as other

[Aspiria]

Thirded

30+ years ago I was where you are now - and I tried to make it work

Hurt me fairly deeply and I was years recovering from that

Do something to end it - in your heart as well as other

Cutting all emotional ties sounds infinitely better than being tied to someone who doesn't want to be with you and who you could end up hating.

It's better to be alone and wish you weren't than it is to be with someone and wish you were alone.

[Elementalist]

Cutting all emotional ties sounds infinitely better than being tied to someone who doesn't want to be with you and who you could end up hating.

It's better to be alone and wish you weren't than it is to be with someone and wish you were alone.

 
As above. Unrequited love is one of lifes toughest trials, I've been there. I know you feel like you will never get over it or resolve all these feelings but you will. What you are feeling now is painful but it will pass. When she tries to contact you tell her you have no interest in being her friend (no matter how much you want her company) as she will only continue to lead you on and be completely free herself. Trust me, you don't want to be there to witness her first boyfriend and have that rubbed in your face too.

A severing spell will only allow you to release the emotional attachment, there is no interfering with her so nothing bad will happen. The feelings are all on your side, its your right to let them go.

The only piece of advice I can offer you is something you don't want to hear and won't believe until some time has passed. But cut and paste it somewhere to read when this blows over. She is not the one for you, the one for you is coming and when you meet her you will realise that she is much better than this one. I have experienced this more than once and this has always been true although I couldnt see how it was possible at the time.

[kaze]

As above. Unrequited love is one of lifes toughest trials, I've been there. I know you feel like you will never get over it or resolve all these feelings but you will. What you are feeling now is painful but it will pass. When she tries to contact you tell her you have no interest in being her friend (no matter how much you want her company) as she will only continue to lead you on and be completely free herself. Trust me, you don't want to be there to witness her first boyfriend and have that rubbed in your face too.

A severing spell will only allow you to release the emotional attachment, there is no interfering with her so nothing bad will happen. The feelings are all on your side, its your right to let them go.

The only piece of advice I can offer you is something you don't want to hear and won't believe until some time has passed. But cut and paste it somewhere to read when this blows over. She is not the one for you, the one for you is coming and when you meet her you will realise that she is much better than this one. I have experienced this more than once and this has always been true although I couldn't see how it was possible at the time.

 
Eventually i did decide to ask someone for a spell, but none of the ones spoke in here, i asked for a well being spell, that would help me feel better, and deal better with all this, i don't know if the spell is at work, all i know is that i feel more calm about it, be it the spell or not, i decided to deal with this on my own way, like i said i am young and stupid, and when you really love someone, you cant get away from the person, because even when your head tells you to, your heart doesn't follow it, i decided to simply give her a cold shoulder, not destroy the friendship for complete, and see if her heart will miss me at all, if not, i will just let the distance grown bigger until i am ready to get over her thank you all for the suggestions, and sorry to have even brought this here, i feel like love spells are somewhat a sensitive topic, hopefully in future this post might be helpful to someone.

[RandallS]

Eventually i did decide to ask someone for a spell, but none of the ones spoke in here, i asked for a well being spell, that would help me feel better, and deal better with all this...

Sounds like a workable solution!

[Elementalist]

sorry to have even brought this here, i feel like love spells are somewhat a sensitive topic, hopefully in future this post might be helpful to someone.

 
Its not that there is anything intrinsically wrong with a love spell. A spell to bring true love to you without any fixation on an individual is just fine. Its more that people turn to them from a place of pain and often from a place of obsession with another. Working magic with that energy isn't a good idea as you'll experience something quite different to whats intended.

Glad you've found your solution, best of luck.