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Author Topic: Phobia recovery?  (Read 165 times)

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Phobia recovery?
« on: March 11, 2019, 11:52:16 am »
I'm not totally sure where this should go, but here makes most sense because even though the initial impetus is spiritual, the steps taken will have to be at least partly mundane.  As per a brief mention in the Discord Divination channel, I seem to be being asked to overcome a phobia, specifically of worms and worm-like bugs.

Aside from "my god said so", I do have some positive motivation to do this because I have always wanted to have a small kitchen garden, and a major inhibitor of this has been "See crawly thing, drop everything and run away".  I'm actually finding myself starting to tear up just writing this even though I know it's a totally ridiculous fear.

I think I should probably start with earthworms as being slightly more tolerable and easily rationalized as highly beneficial critters ( I mean, I guess others have their place in the ecosystem, but it's a lot harder to perceive the benefits). 

Does anyone have any helpful advice/resources/supportive thoughts?

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Re: Phobia recovery?
« Reply #1 on: March 11, 2019, 03:32:36 pm »
I'm not totally sure where this should go, but here makes most sense because even though the initial impetus is spiritual, the steps taken will have to be at least partly mundane.  As per a brief mention in the Discord Divination channel, I seem to be being asked to overcome a phobia, specifically of worms and worm-like bugs.

Aside from "my god said so", I do have some positive motivation to do this because I have always wanted to have a small kitchen garden, and a major inhibitor of this has been "See crawly thing, drop everything and run away".  I'm actually finding myself starting to tear up just writing this even though I know it's a totally ridiculous fear.

I think I should probably start with earthworms as being slightly more tolerable and easily rationalized as highly beneficial critters ( I mean, I guess others have their place in the ecosystem, but it's a lot harder to perceive the benefits). 

Does anyone have any helpful advice/resources/supportive thoughts?


As I have a similar irrational fear of spiders you have my sympathy. The chances of me coming across a spider that could actually harm me is vanishingly small here in the UK but that doesn't help me much.

Hypnotherapy really did work - I can cope now with smallish spiders as long as I don't have to touch them ( I wear gardening gloves a lot) but anything bigger than that still frightens me.  I should go back for another course really but other than the autumn when the really big (and I know totally harmless) ones appear I seem to manage.



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Re: Phobia recovery?
« Reply #2 on: March 11, 2019, 06:23:09 pm »
As I have a similar irrational fear of spiders you have my sympathy. The chances of me coming across a spider that could actually harm me is vanishingly small here in the UK but that doesn't help me much.

Hypnotherapy really did work - I can cope now with smallish spiders as long as I don't have to touch them ( I wear gardening gloves a lot) but anything bigger than that still frightens me.  I should go back for another course really but other than the autumn when the really big (and I know totally harmless) ones appear I seem to manage.

Ugh, I saw a creepy centipede like thingee in the house last night on an object on the counter and even though I was creeped out by it, I couldn't figure out what I wanted to do about it. What I ended up doing was having a chat with it and informed it that it was funny how scared I was of it, such a tiny little thing (with a gazillion legs) and that it had far more reason to fear me, but then I asked it to just please find another place to live and then we could both be happy and not scared. I haven't seen it since, so hopefully it understood and decided to take up my suggestion.
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Re: Phobia recovery?
« Reply #3 on: March 11, 2019, 06:38:35 pm »
Does anyone have any helpful advice/resources/supportive thoughts?

I've heard that it helps to start out with getting used to stylized images of the thing - cartoons, stuffed animals, that sort of thing. In your case ... gummi worms, maybe? This is hearsay, though, so *passes salt*

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Re: Phobia recovery?
« Reply #4 on: March 12, 2019, 01:27:39 pm »
I've heard that it helps to start out with getting used to stylized images of the thing - cartoons, stuffed animals, that sort of thing. In your case ... gummi worms, maybe? This is hearsay, though, so *passes salt*

Along similar lines: maybe try anthropomorphizing the worms in your garden in a friendly way? Talk to them when you garden; as you get used to that, start to imagine them having lives, taking pride in their contribution to the prosperity of your garden, thanking you for providing them a nice warm nourishing place to live, etc. It might help you replace the visceral fear of them with something more cordial.
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Re: Phobia recovery?
« Reply #5 on: March 12, 2019, 01:56:50 pm »
Along similar lines: maybe try anthropomorphizing the worms in your garden in a friendly way? Talk to them when you garden; as you get used to that, start to imagine them having lives, taking pride in their contribution to the prosperity of your garden, thanking you for providing them a nice warm nourishing place to live, etc. It might help you replace the visceral fear of them with something more cordial.

*Nod* That might be an idea.  It was many years before I understood that this was the reason why my mother referred to and addressed all spiders by the pet name of Herkimer.  By giving them a "nerdy"-sounding name she made them less threatening, and I grew up not only not realizing until she mentioned it much later when I was an adult that she struggled with arachnophobia, but also having much less fear of spiders than other bugs( I don't want them physically touching me, but I actually enjoy watching them at a safe distance) despite having been very sick from a black widow bite at an early age.

I'm not much of a namer, but the principle behind it definitely has some merit.

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Re: Phobia recovery?
« Reply #6 on: March 17, 2019, 12:19:57 pm »
Along similar lines: maybe try anthropomorphizing the worms in your garden in a friendly way? Talk to them when you garden; as you get used to that, start to imagine them having lives, taking pride in their contribution to the prosperity of your garden, thanking you for providing them a nice warm nourishing place to live, etc. It might help you replace the visceral fear of them with something more cordial.

Along those lines - for some things I've been scared of, spending time with someone who likes that thing (and yes, oddly enough, there are people who think worms and the like are cute/cool/etc) and trying to see it from their perspective could help as well.

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