So I felt called to Bast. For a long time I gave her attention, but life happened, and I couldn't connect with her like I did. Then after a lot of chaos I drove to an ez-mart to get some beer, and saw a cloud at the horizon where the sun was setting, and it was the shape of Thor's hammer. I'm not sure what you guys think but this seems to be a clear sign that Thor is calling to me.
Seeing as I'm still learning a great deal when it comes to mythology and religious traditions, I can't offer you any sort of advice on that end, so I'm going to share my own story with you about how I ended up with Loki, because your post struck a chord with me.
I used to follow an entirely different set of gods. Like you, there was one god, in particular, that I really felt drawn to. I devoted a good 12 years of my life to him, and I thought I was "happy" doing so, but the truth is that I
wasn't happy. As much as I
wanted to have that special connection with him, he really couldn't have cared less, and in the end I was really only sticking around as long as I was out of a feeling of obligation.
A few years ago, Loki came into my life, through a friend of mine.
(And, for the record, it did not happen through Marvel; I had absolutely
no interest in anything superhero-related, much to my dad's disappointment as a major comic book nerd.)
I knew absolutely nothing about him, so I was hesitant to accept his call, but he was so loud and proud and in-my-face that after a while I just couldn't ignore it anymore. Ironically, he'd finally just fallen "silent" when I decided to reach out to him, and when I did, things were very weird with us. I had my reservations about interacting with him, and I was very honest about that from the get-go. And, to his credit, although he
did mess with me a
lot little, he never did anything to actually hurt me. I still didn't trust him though.
I didn't trust him until finally one day, I had a breakdown, and I don't mean it as in I just got a little nervous. I mean I broke down mentally and emotionally. I lost myself. I
hurt myself. And for some reason, after it happened,
Loki was the one I reached out to. My immediate reaction, as soon as I regained control over myself, was to reach out to Loki. Not my main god, the one I'd devoted, at that time, nearly a decade of my life to. No, I reached out to LOKI, the god I didn't yet trust.
I have never in my life been more vulnerable before someone else. He could have destroyed me so easily. I can think of thousands of things he could have said to me in that moment that would have broken me beyond any hope for saving. Instead, he comforted me. He actually stopped being the total jerk I'd come to know him as, and offered me support. There was no judgment. From that moment on, things really changed between us. I started to see him differently, I started to see the people and the world around me differently, and I started to see myself differently.
Through him, I came to understand that I wasn't happy with my life as it was - in any sense. I wasn't happy spiritually, I wasn't happy religiously. I wasn't happy with my family, my friends, my financial situation, my lifestyle, or myself.
The rest of the story is quite long, it's a good five years of us going through our... stuff, so I'm not gonna bother going into all of that. Long story short, I started to grow as a person over my time with him. I cut ties with people in my life that were abusive toward me, I learned to set boundaries in my relationships in general, I got not one but
two jobs over that time period (with my newest one being a huge improvement over the first one), and it has been around four years since my last major breakdown.
And now? Now, I'm so used to having Loki in my life that I can't believe he actually wasn't there for the majority of it. I can't imagine my life without him. I'm slowly starting to connect with other gods, too. I've taken a liking to Frigg, and while I don't interact with Thor very often, I've had nothing but pleasant experiences with him. I've had some very distant interactions with Loki's children, too. I'm definitely taking the "baby steps" approach, because my experiences with religion in the past haven't always been positive, and I want to avoid making the same mistakes I made before.
You will probably have a very different connection with Thor, if you choose to reach out to him. It's possible he might just come into your life to teach you a lesson and then leave (that's happened to me before, too). It's also possible that you're meant to connect with him for the long-term. You won't know until you try, and if you're getting an overall good vibe from him, I'd recommend taking that chance.