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Author Topic: Searching for a friendly, helpful god or goddess to help me with my path-anxiety  (Read 2470 times)

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Hey there,

I'm totally new here, so hopefully I'm posting a relevant question in the right place.

I have been struggling with anxiety regarding my path into paganism. Part of this may be due to my upbringing in fire & brimstone Christianity. Anyway, I feel very alone in my rituals, but I haven't felt any desire to practice with other pagans. Instead, I've felt most comforted by the idea of a gentle, guiding deity that I can work with and direct my rituals to.

Does anyone know of any deities (specifically female) that might fit the bill, so to speak? I hope this doesn't come across as an irreverent way to research deity, but I'm incredibly lost. I feel like there is one just beyond my reach... I just need a springboard into the world of deities.

I've looked into Isis already, but the whole "motherhood" thing estranged me.

Thank you for any thoughts on this topic.

Much love,

Zelda

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Does anyone know of any deities (specifically female) that might fit the bill, so to speak?

 
Do you have any experience with Kuan Yin? She's the gentlest lady I know.
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Do you have any experience with Kuan Yin? She's the gentlest lady I know.

 
I will check her out right now! Thank you!

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I have been struggling with anxiety regarding my path into paganism.


A while back, I invented the Goddess of the Old Ways (=paganism): Henffyrddon, in Welsh, with a modernized British deity suffix. Be welcome to use her if you want. Perhaps she'll be a great guide.

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A while back, I invented the Goddess of the Old Ways (=paganism): Henffyrddon, in Welsh, with a modernized British deity suffix. Be welcome to use her if you want. Perhaps she'll be a great guide.

 
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When I think of goddesses known for their gentleness, Hestia is at the top of the list. She's the goddess of the hearth in ancient Greece and never married or had children. Her primary form of worship didn't take place at temples but rather at the family hearth or in small household shrines. She's always seemed like an aunt to me, warm and caring toward all children without any of her own.

Brighid is also a hearth goddess (with other associations like poetry and smithcraft, though all Her symbolism tends to go back towards fire) who pops up in many different Celtic tribes. She's incredibly gentle and comforting with me and has been there while I worked through depression and other icky issues. Brighid is a mother in some versions of Her myths but I wouldn't say Her primary role is that of a mother the way, say, Demeter's is.

You may also be interested in Idunna! My knowledge of Norse mythology is more sketchy, but I know Idunna is a goddess of youth (and the spring?) who nurtured the groves of golden apples that kept the Aesir forever young and healthy. I don't know if She's a mother, but like with Brighid I don't think that'd be Her primary role.
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Do you have any experience with Kuan Yin? She's the gentlest lady I know.

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I will check her out right now! Thank you!

I've been working with Quan Yin for a few years now, and She's perfect for dealing with anxiety of any kind. I'm mildly disappointed that I didn't get to mention Her first, but I always love knowing someone else on TC works with Her.
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I've been working with Quan Yin for a few years now, and She's perfect for dealing with anxiety of any kind. I'm mildly disappointed that I didn't get to mention Her first, but I always love knowing someone else on TC works with Her.

 
Aww, sorry! Next time I'm sure you'll beat me to it!
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Aww, sorry! Next time I'm sure you'll beat me to it!

Haha, don't worry about it. I'm just glad I'm not the only one!
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When I think of goddesses known for their gentleness, Hestia is at the top of the list. She's the goddess of the hearth in ancient Greece and never married or had children. Her primary form of worship didn't take place at temples but rather at the family hearth or in small household shrines. She's always seemed like an aunt to me, warm and caring toward all children without any of her own.

Brighid is also a hearth goddess (with other associations like poetry and smithcraft, though all Her symbolism tends to go back towards fire) who pops up in many different Celtic tribes. She's incredibly gentle and comforting with me and has been there while I worked through depression and other icky issues. Brighid is a mother in some versions of Her myths but I wouldn't say Her primary role is that of a mother the way, say, Demeter's is.

You may also be interested in Idunna! My knowledge of Norse mythology is more sketchy, but I know Idunna is a goddess of youth (and the spring?) who nurtured the groves of golden apples that kept the Aesir forever young and healthy. I don't know if She's a mother, but like with Brighid I don't think that'd be Her primary role.

 
Hestia and Idunna both intrigue me. (I have a couple books on Asatrú, so I dug those up.) I think the reason the "mother" aspect bothers me is because my relationship with my own mother has always been unpredictable and sometimes disastrous. At some point I would like to approach this part of my shadow self and experience, but not at this time. I'm much more interested in an aunt-like figure :)

Thank you so much Sage.

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I've been working with Quan Yin for a few years now, and She's perfect for dealing with anxiety of any kind. I'm mildly disappointed that I didn't get to mention Her first, but I always love knowing someone else on TC works with Her.

 
Thank you! I found a very inspiring picture of Kuan Yin... I look forward to getting to know her better. :)


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Hey there,

I'm totally new here, so hopefully I'm posting a relevant question in the right place.

I have been struggling with anxiety regarding my path into paganism. Part of this may be due to my upbringing in fire & brimstone Christianity. Anyway, I feel very alone in my rituals, but I haven't felt any desire to practice with other pagans. Instead, I've felt most comforted by the idea of a gentle, guiding deity that I can work with and direct my rituals to.

Does anyone know of any deities (specifically female) that might fit the bill, so to speak? I hope this doesn't come across as an irreverent way to research deity, but I'm incredibly lost. I feel like there is one just beyond my reach... I just need a springboard into the world of deities.

I've looked into Isis already, but the whole "motherhood" thing estranged me.

Thank you for any thoughts on this topic.

Much love,

Zelda

 
I am glad it seems like Kuan Yin might be a good match for you! I have not worked with her personally, but have only heard good things. I second the suggestion of Hestia as well.

Later, when you feel more comfortable with some of the darker work, I actually tend to work with Ariadne and Dionysus. Not for my anxiety specifically, but a lot of the shadow work I do, which often involves my mental illness. It can be really, really scary at times, but after a few years I have started to feel safer with Dionysus. Ariadne rarely scares me, she is a bit more subtle and gentle.

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Later, when you feel more comfortable with some of the darker work, I actually tend to work with Ariadne and Dionysus. Not for my anxiety specifically, but a lot of the shadow work I do, which often involves my mental illness. It can be really, really scary at times, but after a few years I have started to feel safer with Dionysus. Ariadne rarely scares me, she is a bit more subtle and gentle.
I second Dionysus! He was actually one of the first deities I actually really worked for and he helped me with some of my own issues. It was really rewarding!

On a related note, there's also Loki who is a deity who deals with change a lot. He was the second deity I worked with and my longest relationship, he taught me a lot of things and cleared away a lot of underlying issues that Dionysus didn't really get at. I went from someone who didn't entirely enjoy life and wasn't particularly happy (though Dionysus did get me to come out of that a little better) to someone who enjoyed life and was pretty happy with life under Loki's presence.

He's a great god to call upon if you are dealing with any sort of issues at all (anxiety, mental illnesses, etc). The work with him can be incredibly rewarding! At least mine was. Of course, being that this is Loki, his changes can sometimes involve turning things upside down and he is a bit of a Trickster, so you might want to be a little cautious and maybe set up some boundaries if things ever get too rough. Other than that, he's mostly beginner friendly. I mean, he's a pretty easy-going god who won't be super fussy about what you give him. Heck, he may ask you for sparkly, pink cat toys or something.
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Hestia and Idunna both intrigue me. (I have a couple books on Asatrú, so I dug those up.) I think the reason the "mother" aspect bothers me is because my relationship with my own mother has always been unpredictable and sometimes disastrous. At some point I would like to approach this part of my shadow self and experience, but not at this time. I'm much more interested in an aunt-like figure :)

Thank you so much Sage.

 
The great thing about polytheism is there are plenty of options to choose from! I have a rocky relationship with my mom as well and for several years tended to avoid Mother Goddess type figures in my work. (A big part of me breaking away from Wicca was both the Mothery-ness of the Goddess and the fact that as someone perceived as a woman, I was expected to align spiritually with the Goddess... which didn't work out very well with me.)

Take your time. You are allowed to approach your spirituality on your own terms and in your own time. The gods tend to understand. You also have every right to say, "This is what I'm comfortable with and these are the boundaries I'm drawing." Just like in human relationships, relationships with the divine work both ways. You deserve to feel comfortable and safe.
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Thank you! I found a very inspiring picture of Kuan Yin... I look forward to getting to know her better. :)


 That's one of my favorite pictures. :)

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I am glad it seems like Kuan Yin might be a good match for you! I have not worked with her personally, but have only heard good things.

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Quan Yin is one of those deities that no matter what happens, She'll always be there for you.
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