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Author Topic: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning  (Read 10210 times)

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Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #15 on: March 21, 2013, 02:22:32 am »
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Like a bunch of other people, I'm thinking about starting my spring cleaning.  Like a bunch of people, I'm dreading the actual doing and don't actually know where to start.  So, I thought it might be nice to have a thread where we could talk about what needs to be done during a spring clean, share ideas, and maybe track our baby steps toward unfucking our habitats.

So, what are you planning for spring cleaning?  Have you started?  How are you prioritizing, and what have you done today?

This is a great topic.

I have a very hard time with cleaning. I used to keep my home spotless. It was a bit neurotic of me (OK - very neurotic) but it helped me feel like my life was under control. These days I can't clean for myself, and am lucky enough to have some people come in to help me with it - but, as horribly ungrateful as this is going to sound, they don't clean to my 'standards' (i.e. enough to make me feel like things look clean enough). So I do as much as I can of the stuff that they won't, although there's always more I want to do. Things can also get horribly out of control because I'm very messy (despite being obsessed with clean!) - I'm another one who can't see things that I've put down, and can't stay organized, until it's all on top of me and I lose the plot. Also I am afraid of paperwork, so that ends up all over my office in an explode-y way. Also I live with a really terrible slob. (Who tries hard to work on it, but seems to be unable to do much about it.)

This is a very long-winded way of saying that I definitely need group support with this! And the article Jack linked to is fantastic. I'm going away for a week, but when I'm back I intend to have a go at some gradual spring-cleaning.

Oh, and I love the idea that this is a FlameKeeping thing. That will help! I like the idea of doing one thing a day. And of persuading myself that I won't die if I talk to the cleaner about a certain thing that needs to be cleaned. (I am nervous of seeming ungrateful if I say she needs to do something differently!)
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #16 on: March 21, 2013, 04:24:49 am »
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Oh, and I love the idea that this is a FlameKeeping thing.


Whoops.  Sorry, I didn't notice this was a SIG area.
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #17 on: March 21, 2013, 04:27:02 am »
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Whoops.  Sorry, I didn't notice this was a SIG area.

 
Doesn't matter. It's not just relevant for Flame Keepers. It's nice that other people join in too, I think..... :)
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #18 on: March 21, 2013, 05:57:05 am »
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Doesn't matter. It's not just relevant for Flame Keepers. It's nice that other people join in too, I think..... :)

 
I'll take that as a formal invitation to chip in ;)

This thread actually helped me get into the "MUST CLEAN!" mindset. I usually like to do a spring cleaning when...well, when spring starts. Which would be yesterday, however with the hell job and real life stuff happening I totally forgot and was so busy that I wouldn't be able to do it anyways. My new plan is to do it over the weekend.
That said, I've just moved to a new house and have unpacked most things. I've also done a bit of cleaning and cleasing recently but I still plan to stick to tradition and:
- Give my house a good cleaning (including finish the laundry, do the dishes, vaccum, wash the floors, etc)
- Finish unpacking and re/organizing stuff.
- Purge the last of the stuff that's been meant to goodwill or the trash.
- Return things to the people that leant them to me.
- Try and finally set up a small space for a temporary altar. Probably in a shelf somewhere.
- Hang my new protection amulets and do another cleasing.

I feel my house is in desperate need of "good vibes" so I hope this will help some :)

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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #19 on: March 21, 2013, 08:00:27 am »
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Whoops.  Sorry, I didn't notice this was a SIG area.

 
We welcome anyone on the board to participate.

I don't have so much spring cleaning to do as regular cleaning. The house has a few spots where we've dumped stuff after coming back from recent trips. I might wash the kitchen cabinets though. That's something I've noticed that needs doing.

There are a few spring to-do items, like replace the garage door, take down the winter holiday lights (:whis: hey, they haven't been lit in months), and fix the back gate.

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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #20 on: March 21, 2013, 08:09:25 am »
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Whoops.  Sorry, I didn't notice this was a SIG area.

 
PLEASE join in.  It's about using the concepts of FK, sure, but you don't NEED the concepts!  The more the merrier!

And gods know we all need support sometimes.  especially with depression.  ugh - no fun!

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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #21 on: March 21, 2013, 09:03:52 am »
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Whoops.  Sorry, I didn't notice this was a SIG area.

 
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #22 on: March 21, 2013, 09:16:05 am »
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...track our baby steps toward unfucking our habitats.
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Today, I plan to clean up all the papers in my office.  What will you do?
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #23 on: March 21, 2013, 09:31:12 am »
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Today, I plan to clean up all the papers in my office.  What will you do?

I have an interview for a new job
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #24 on: March 21, 2013, 09:32:45 am »
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I have an interview for a new job

 
Awesome! Good luck!
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #25 on: March 21, 2013, 09:37:27 am »
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So, what are you planning for spring cleaning?  Have you started?  How are you prioritizing, and what have you done today?

 
You know, I have developed a system for this stuff, because I'm a person who really, really needs systems.

Rather than setting goals, which always just make me feel overwhelmed and unhappy, I just produced a system that worked for me personally.

The first thing I did was set my priority as "visual areas". If I were to have guests over, would I be okay with them being there, provided they didn't look into my garage or my back storage room? The honest answer is that I would be uncomfortable at this point in time with having guests, but! I also feel like I make progress every day.

I started looking at maintaining a clean room as progress, rather than "fighting to stay even". Because with a family, things go to hell in a handbasket, but fast.

My system is relatively simply, but it caters to my femininity, in my personal opinion. When my husband cleans, he goes out there and he's got a goal and he hammers it out... then he's done.

But I find that I always have another goal if I do it by goals. I want SO MUCH of my house cleaned that I tend to feel obligated to push myself until I am about to drop.

So I changed it. I no longer set goals, and now I use an egg timer. I sit the egg timer down with an hour on it. For that hour, I work my TAIL OFF. I go, go, go. I wash dishes, I water the plants, I clean the bathroom... but when that hour is over? ALL BETS ARE OFF.

I reset the egg timer for another hour. For THIS hour, I do whatever the hell I want to do.  I take a luxurious bath. I write. I play a game. Whatever.

If my daughter is home, I'll be honest, I don't like a lot of kids' games, but she does. So during one of my "work hours", I play a game with my kid for a solid hour. But when that's done, I do whatever I want.

Over a 16 hour day, that's 8 hours of play time, and 8 hours of work time.

Want to know the bizarre part of it all?? I get more done this way! I don't sit there feeling overwhelmed by everything I need to get done, because I know I only need to do stuff for an hour (at a time). Then I know I get A WHOLE HOUR to play, guilt-free and with complete acceptance of that "me time".

I used to spend what little free time I gave myself feeling terrible. My house was a mess, I really needed to clean the bathroom, the bedroom, the kitchen, the garage, the spare room, the back room, the lawn needed mowing, the garden needed tending, the.... the list was endless!

Nowdays, though, I still don't have the perfectly clean house or the perfectly manicured lawn, I admit. But I have made progress. My house today is a heck of a lot cleaner, a lot more often, than it was just a year ago.  And it's only improving with time, where it used to be only devolving with time.

So there you have it. My plans for spring cleaning are to simply keep making progress on this house the way I have been. An hour at a time, no more.

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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #26 on: March 21, 2013, 09:46:34 am »
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You know, the egg timer idea is a nice one.  I can see how that would work for people.
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #27 on: March 21, 2013, 09:46:49 am »
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I have an interview for a new job

 
Good luck, Rhys!
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Re: Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #28 on: March 21, 2013, 09:49:06 am »
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You know, the egg timer idea is a nice one.  I can see how that would work for people.

Thanks. For me personally, it gives me a feeling that "there is an end in sight". Without that sense of finality, I find myself just feeling like everything's hanging over me indefinitely. There are always more dishes to wash! It's like magic...


PS: Sorry for the incorrect name, Rhyshadow! I meant you, I swear. *hides*
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Baby Steps and Spring Cleaning
« Reply #29 on: March 21, 2013, 03:29:41 pm »
I'm not much of a physical cleaner and organization isn't even in my vocabulary, but my place is in desperate need of a metaphysical cleaning!

 Just recently started staying with my boyfriend who is in the midst of a nasty divorce. All the leftover negative energy from when she lived here is just hanging around.

Would be so much easier to get my butt in gear for spring cleaning if there wasn't three feet of snow outside!

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