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Heartbroken
« on: October 28, 2016, 10:20:48 pm »
My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me tonight.
I needed to tell someone that wasn't  family.

I have 2 boys. He said he couldn't deal with them and it was better for him and them to leave now. I guess he's right but it doesn't make it hurt any less.

He's the first man to make me feel secure in our relationship.
I had been getting vibes that something was wrong for the last couple of months. But when I asked what was wrong, he always said nothing.
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Re: Heartbroken
« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2016, 02:43:37 am »
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My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me tonight.
I needed to tell someone that wasn't  family.


Ugh. I'm so sorry.

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I have 2 boys. He said he couldn't deal with them and it was better for him and them to leave now. I guess he's right but it doesn't make it hurt any less.


I don't mean to be judgmental(although I probably am), but he sounds like a peach. What exactly does he mean by can't deal? Any kid can be difficult but every kid deserves love. Don't let him put this on them, he is the adult and they are the children. After 2 years he should be invested in them or he should have ended it a long time ago. I think this is his problem, not yours or your kids. Honestly, it sounds like you are better off.

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He's the first man to make me feel secure in our relationship.
I had been getting vibes that something was wrong for the last couple of months. But when I asked what was wrong, he always said nothing.


You deserve better than that.
"Think like a wise man but communicate in the language of the people."

- W.B. Yeats

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Re: Heartbroken
« Reply #2 on: October 29, 2016, 08:45:28 am »
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Ugh. I'm so sorry.



I don't mean to be judgmental(although I probably am), but he sounds like a peach. What exactly does he mean by can't deal? Any kid can be difficult but every kid deserves love. Don't let him put this on them, he is the adult and they are the children. After 2 years he should be invested in them or he should have ended it a long time ago. I think this is his problem, not yours or your kids. Honestly, it sounds like you are better off.



You deserve better than that.

 
Thank you.
Being able to post it here helped me be able to sleep last night. I don't have any friends beyond family and a coworker. I didn't want to disturb my coworker's weekend, she's been under a lot of stress. And my mom knows but I didn't want to talk to anyone from my family last night.
I am working on being more social. The kids and I are gonna with my mom to a Samhain tonight.

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Re: Heartbroken
« Reply #3 on: October 29, 2016, 10:58:23 am »
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My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me tonight.
I needed to tell someone that wasn't  family.

I have 2 boys. He said he couldn't deal with them and it was better for him and them to leave now. I guess he's right but it doesn't make it hurt any less.

He's the first man to make me feel secure in our relationship.
I had been getting vibes that something was wrong for the last couple of months. But when I asked what was wrong, he always said nothing.

 
I'm so sorry - I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Two years is a lot of investment and time. Please make sure you're taking care of yourself as you mourn the loss and process the change. I'll agree with Thistle here; it sounds like, as hard as this is, you're all better off without him.


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Re: Heartbroken
« Reply #4 on: October 29, 2016, 12:40:10 pm »
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Thank you.
Being able to post it here helped me be able to sleep last night. I don't have any friends beyond family and a coworker. I didn't want to disturb my coworker's weekend, she's been under a lot of stress. And my mom knows but I didn't want to talk to anyone from my family last night.
I am working on being more social. The kids and I are gonna with my mom to a Samhain tonight.

 
Good. Yes, don't isolate yourself and don't feel bad about interrupting people's lives, you deserve a break too.
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