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Re: What do you do when you don't have privacy/space/time...
« Reply #15 on: April 18, 2012, 07:38:23 pm »
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Ah. So now I'm getting a better picture of your living situation. So, if I got this right, you are living with family at present (one of whom is open-ish and the other is so-so not) but you still want to do something for your gods, hm? Let me think about it some.
 
Well, you can place it as a big ole bowl on an altar space for "passing through" deities or for "everyone". When I have my house set up (so never--just kidding) the way that I actually want it, I'm planning on having a table or credenza or something for household deities. This is where Hetharu and Bes will "live" when I have my own house and the room, to boot. If you end up with enough space for something similar, you can use the candlesticks as representations on a household altar and the bowl as the "everyone's getting water" offering.

 
Yeah, I guess you could say open-ish. Sister is of the mindset "if you're happy, I'm happy, btw tell me what's interesting about it?" Gm (what I call my grandmother) is of the mindset "don't we have enough strange shit in the house?" So it's not so much she's against it, but that I really need to do it on my own terms and in a way that doesn't affect the house or attract spirits.

I'm using the candles as representations, though it is slightly odd to use them lol I'm sure I'll get used to it. Anyway, I figure I'll use the bowl as group offering since it has a top to it. I used it to offer up some peanut chews :D They have their own cups, I even wrote their names on them, but to be fair they're plastic XD I might get my hands on another jar to use as a communal water jar since the one I currently have is being used to contain anti-flammability fluid lol
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Re: What do you do when you don't have privacy/space/time...
« Reply #16 on: July 13, 2012, 08:01:30 pm »
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...But you really want to do ritual/worship or offerings? I could use some suggestions.


well for me I just go about my daily routine and worship my deitys as I always do.  I am very open about my paganism, and anyone that knows me well enough to be at my house knows I am pagan anyway.

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« Reply #17 on: July 13, 2012, 08:43:47 pm »
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...But you really want to do ritual/worship or offerings? I could use some suggestions.
I usually go outside to preform my rituals.
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« Reply #18 on: July 13, 2012, 10:35:23 pm »
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I usually go outside to preform my rituals.

 
do you do the same in the winter?
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« Reply #19 on: July 13, 2012, 11:09:48 pm »
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do you do the same in the winter?
Live in Texas, so no real problem there, lol
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« Reply #20 on: July 13, 2012, 11:31:49 pm »
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Live in Texas, so no real problem there, lol

 
Yeah, I'm in Pennsylvania, we get snow here XD though not last year :56:
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« Reply #21 on: November 28, 2012, 01:06:56 am »
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...But you really want to do ritual/worship or offerings? I could use some suggestions.


You have a private place everyday you get up and that is the bathroom. Now hear me out. It is the one place no one will bother you and won't ask you what's taking you so long, unless you have only one bathroom. When I need a private time, I would clean the bathroom head to toe ( even if it was clean a day or two ago I'll still clean it again) and lay my alter stuffy across the sink or on the toilet seat (depending on the area I need).

I do my ritual in an average amount of time I do my business back everything, flush the toilet wash my hand and come out like everything was normal.  But I read that you might have gotten an apartment so you can use any space you want lol ^_^

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Re: What do you do when you don't have privacy/space/time...
« Reply #22 on: November 28, 2012, 09:18:56 am »
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...But you really want to do ritual/worship or offerings? I could use some suggestions.


This might sound dumb but what about doing some work for a charity your god/goddess would like? Do you have any craft experience? Can you make say quilts or hats and give them to charity in your gods name? It's not the same as as say a food offering but I think they appreciate it just the same. I volunteer for a veterans group since my family has served and I dedicate it to Odin and Freya.

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« Reply #23 on: November 28, 2012, 11:15:05 am »
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You have a private place everyday you get up and that is the bathroom. Now hear me out. It is the one place no one will bother you and won't ask you what's taking you so long, unless you have only one bathroom. When I need a private time, I would clean the bathroom head to toe ( even if it was clean a day or two ago I'll still clean it again) and lay my alter stuffy across the sink or on the toilet seat (depending on the area I need).

I do my ritual in an average amount of time I do my business back everything, flush the toilet wash my hand and come out like everything was normal.  But I read that you might have gotten an apartment so you can use any space you want lol ^_^

 
well, in my house all the females have free reign to invade the privacy of the bathroom lol Basically if I'm in the bathroom my mom or sister don't have any problem with coming in to say, shower or brush their teeth. Like, I have no space XD and I haven't found an apartment yet, but you are right that I'll have space once that happens lol I do, however, like your suggestion. That's a great idea in general, using the bathroom :)
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« Reply #24 on: November 28, 2012, 11:16:42 am »
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This might sound dumb but what about doing some work for a charity your god/goddess would like? Do you have any craft experience? Can you make say quilts or hats and give them to charity in your gods name? It's not the same as as say a food offering but I think they appreciate it just the same. I volunteer for a veterans group since my family has served and I dedicate it to Odin and Freya.

 
It's not dumb, I just have no idea what I would do. My main deity is Anubis, I should ask what He might consider good work. I only have a little craft experience, but it's a good idea, I'll look into that as well. Thank you :3
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« Reply #25 on: November 28, 2012, 12:05:35 pm »
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Lol maybe in your house, but in a house full of related girls where the only males are a baby and a dog, we don't even close the door unless we're trying to keep shower heat in XD


So you share a room with your sister and an infant, live with your somewhat restricting grandmother, and no one even closes the door for a few minutes of privacy? I truly envy your ability to get along. If I were in that situation I think my mind would snap and I'd start stabbing people...


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« Reply #26 on: November 28, 2012, 12:24:35 pm »
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...But you really want to do ritual/worship or offerings? I could use some suggestions.

 
When I was living with the bf's parents we shared this TINY room. They had made it themselves, it was just wide enough for the full sized mattress and with the desk squished up against the end of the bed just long enough to open the door. Meaning no altar space. I would do most of my work when nobody else was home or right in front of my bf. If I didn't want to do that I would wait until he went to take a shower and do a quick ritual or spell work. My altar stuff was in a drawer and would get set up on any free flat surface. I ended up making a shrine to my goddess that was a cheap shelf. You could look at goodwill, or you could do what I did and make it out of a board, a few nails, and some paint. It doesn't take up any floor space so it works for a small space.

That being said, we had a lock on our tiny room, and I could have the bathroom to myself! Also, the people I was living with were pretty chill about what I was, although I didn't exactly advertise it.


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« Reply #27 on: November 28, 2012, 12:32:33 pm »
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So you share a room with your sister and an infant, live with your somewhat restricting grandmother, and no one even closes the door for a few minutes of privacy? I truly envy your ability to get along. If I were in that situation I think my mind would snap and I'd start stabbing people...

 
lol well, as far as the bathroom goes, it's been that way for years. I've lived in a girls only house for years, my mom's only been married for eight years, and I'm 21 so I'm used to it. And most of the time I don't mind, it's just recently that it's been frustrating and cramped because of my nephew. Babies need a lot of stuff and it's all being put into the same space me and my sister's stuff is in, so yeah. Once my room back at my mom's is put back together then I'll have some personal space until I can move out.
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« Reply #28 on: November 28, 2012, 12:39:24 pm »
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When I was living with the bf's parents we shared this TINY room. They had made it themselves, it was just wide enough for the full sized mattress and with the desk squished up against the end of the bed just long enough to open the door. Meaning no altar space. I would do most of my work when nobody else was home or right in front of my bf. If I didn't want to do that I would wait until he went to take a shower and do a quick ritual or spell work. My altar stuff was in a drawer and would get set up on any free flat surface. I ended up making a shrine to my goddess that was a cheap shelf. You could look at goodwill, or you could do what I did and make it out of a board, a few nails, and some paint. It doesn't take up any floor space so it works for a small space.

That being said, we had a lock on our tiny room, and I could have the bathroom to myself! Also, the people I was living with were pretty chill about what I was, although I didn't exactly advertise it.

 
yikes what a squeeze! :eek: Well, I'm not completely worried about an altar/shrine at the moment. It's not exactly ideal since I do want predefined space to do ritual and worship in (as opposed to anywhere when people aren't home) and leave offerings out, but I have an ambitious promise from my bf to get space when we move out together. I mean, he wants to get me statues and a table and a prayer mat and a pillow so my knees aren't on the floor. Makes me feel spoiled (I am, but still).

However, the shelf idea is a good one! I already have a shelf that I never put up for my room at my mom's house and I'm planning on moving back in soon for school and work purposes (coincidentally the same reasons I moved to my grandmother's). And, well, the family who know about my path are not "chill" with it, but they're not actively opposing it. They're sort of operating on a "If I close my eyes and say nothing it won't bother me" thing.
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« Reply #29 on: November 28, 2012, 08:51:16 pm »
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*snip* ... but I have an ambitious promise from my bf to get space when we move out together. I mean, he wants to get me statues and a table and a prayer mat and a pillow so my knees aren't on the floor. Makes me feel spoiled (I am, but still).


Aw, it's lovely to hear that he's so supportive. :)

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However, the shelf idea is a good one! I already have a shelf that I never put up for my room at my mom's house and I'm planning on moving back in soon for school and work purposes (coincidentally the same reasons I moved to my grandmother's). And, well, the family who know about my path are not "chill" with it, but they're not actively opposing it. They're sort of operating on a "If I close my eyes and say nothing it won't bother me" thing.

 
Glad I could provide some inspiration. :) Good luck with your family and living arrangements!


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