Breaking Away from Whining

[Vella Malachite]

OK, I'll admit it right now, I whine to my gods a lot.  They must be getting incredibly sick of me.

I've been a bit out of sorts since I moved to college, I tend to go in cycles of being perfectly happy and ready for any challenge to completely down, both on myself and in terms of emotions.  This means that, while I have done some stuff like offerings and 'giving back' type exercises, a lot of my communication with them is me asking for help and complaining that I'm not good enough and such similarly whiny and frequently nonsensical things.

Is there anyone else who's had this problem?  Did you stop complaining and move to another form of communication, or did you fix the outside problem first so that you weren't complaining so much?

Thanks
 - Vella

[Livia Indica]

OK, I'll admit it right now, I whine to my gods a lot.  They must be getting incredibly sick of me.

I've been a bit out of sorts since I moved to college, I tend to go in cycles of being perfectly happy and ready for any challenge to completely down, both on myself and in terms of emotions.  This means that, while I have done some stuff like offerings and 'giving back' type exercises, a lot of my communication with them is me asking for help and complaining that I'm not good enough and such similarly whiny and frequently nonsensical things.

Is there anyone else who's had this problem?  Did you stop complaining and move to another form of communication, or did you fix the outside problem first so that you weren't complaining so much?

Thanks
 - Vella

 
I imagine we've all had our moments of perhaps relying too heavily on our deities and complaining to them. I think you need to think of them in a different way perhaps. They aren't there to necessarily fix your life or your problems for you. They can help you help yourself instead.

[Vella Malachite]

I imagine we've all had our moments of perhaps relying too heavily on our deities and complaining to them. I think you need to think of them in a different way perhaps. They aren't there to necessarily fix your life or your problems for you. They can help you help yourself instead.

 
I've been trying asking them to help me help myself for a while now.  I wouldn't be surprised if I need to help myself a little bit first.  I'm trying, but it's hard.

[Livia Indica]

I've been trying asking them to help me help myself for a while now.  I wouldn't be surprised if I need to help myself a little bit first.  I'm trying, but it's hard.

I know, it's hard as hell! Have you offered something in return for their help?

[Vella Malachite]

I know, it's hard as hell! Have you offered something in return for their help?

 
Several things - baked goods, a questionably silver ring...
But I think the larger point at this stage is to say "alright, this has helped, but it's not going to take me all the way".

[Livia Indica]

Several things - baked goods, a questionably silver ring...
But I think the larger point at this stage is to say "alright, this has helped, but it's not going to take me all the way".

 
Well, that's the point. YOU have to take it all the way. I know it sound cliche but you've got to reach inside and do it yourself sometimes.

[Devo]

Is there anyone else who's had this problem?  Did you stop complaining and move to another form of communication, or did you fix the outside problem first so that you weren't complaining so much?

 
Yes and no. I have a habit of talking too much in shrine. And there have been times when Set has told me to STFU. ANd when life gets hard, it's not uncommon for me to rattle on for quite a while about things that are happening, things that are going wrong, etc. I'm not asking for help so much as I'm just getting things off my chest. For the most part, he tolerates this. Sorta.

However, when I went through an angry phase, and that was tainting my complaining, he told me to stop. And kinda gave me the cold shoulder while I figured myself out. Guess it just depends on how 'legit' the complaining is.

-Devo