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Author Topic: Pagan married to non pagan and conflict resolution  (Read 5887 times)


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Re: Pagan married to non pagan and conflict resolution
« Reply #15 on: April 19, 2014, 11:04:18 am »
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My dear,

I may not be the best person to advise you on how to deal with this trouble, but, I would like to add my 2 cents on this conversation, if you don't mind.

As a human being, your situation is not easy to solve, but isn't impossible either. As a woman, I say what I have learned about men: they are childish, whimsical and cruel at times, and, when it happens to be the case, all we can do is to wait. In some given day he is going to wake up in a great mood and will stop acting as a spoiled child and listen to every word you have to say about your choice.
In the meantime, keep on learning, practicing, and giving your daughter full attention. Also, connect with other pagans in your area, exchange ideas, see if you can find someone reliable to teach you your craft, explain to you in full detail whatever doubt you may have. Make friends.
You are right, you are not a doormat, you are a fully grown woman and must be respected in every possible way. If he cannot show such respect, show yourself how wonderful you are, empower yourself, be happy, sing, dance, clap, smile, because you deserve it!
When he notices how happy you are, and how far you have blossomed, he'll have no doubt on how incredibly right was your choice and will ask you to educate him in detail about it.

You necroposted in a two and a half year old thread and then proceeded to put down an entire gender. Really? REALLY?
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Re: Pagan married to non pagan and conflict resolution
« Reply #16 on: April 19, 2014, 11:30:55 am »
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You necroposted in a two and a half year old thread and then proceeded to put down an entire gender. Really? REALLY?

In addition to the gender issues, OP posted this issue 2.5 years ago.  That's a long time, and because it has been a long time I'm sure the situation has evolved.  Hopefully for the better.  We don't know though, because OP has not been online in over a year.  So they are unlikely to see your advice anyway.

And I'll add my voice to those who are perplexed at how you seem to know all men are childish and cruel.  Because, you know, they're not.


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