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Spoon Theory
« on: July 08, 2011, 08:09:22 pm »
The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino


I thought with a new board it might be handy to have a spot to direct newbies to/discuss the wonderful analogy that is the spoon theory. (Actually, I was originally going to add it to the link directory, until I realized it was just for member blogs. So here's as good as anything!)
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #1 on: July 10, 2011, 08:15:12 pm »
Quote from: Juni;3096
The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino


I thought with a new board it might be handy to have a spot to direct newbies to/discuss the wonderful analogy that is the spoon theory. (Actually, I was originally going to add it to the link directory, until I realized it was just for member blogs. So here's as good as anything!)

 
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #2 on: July 11, 2011, 04:41:58 pm »
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The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino


It's brilliant. I was introduced to it by a friend of my mum's, who lives with fibromyalgia. Running out of spoons is no fun at all.
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #3 on: September 28, 2011, 06:00:12 pm »
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It's brilliant. I was introduced to it by a friend of my mum's, who lives with fibromyalgia. Running out of spoons is no fun at all.

 
Ok, so I'm out of this loop. What exactly IS Spoon Therapy?
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #4 on: September 28, 2011, 07:00:43 pm »
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Ok, so I'm out of this loop. What exactly IS Spoon Therapy?

 
The original post links to a blog that explains it.
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #5 on: September 28, 2011, 07:03:12 pm »
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The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino


I thought with a new board it might be handy to have a spot to direct newbies to/discuss the wonderful analogy that is the spoon theory. (Actually, I was originally going to add it to the link directory, until I realized it was just for member blogs. So here's as good as anything!)

 
Genius! I don't have lupus but I do have Hashimoto's Thyroiditis and when my levels are off everything goes haywire. If I work 8 hours I *have* to sleep right after work. I just do. Which of course screws up the rest of my day / evening. It's hard to get people to understand that I'm not lazy etc that I don't intend to forget crap or be so scatterbrained, rather it's my body being weird and leading to that. Oh bless you spoons :D

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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #6 on: September 29, 2011, 02:04:41 am »
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Genius! I don't have lupus but I do have Hashimoto's Thyroiditis and when my levels are off everything goes haywire. If I work 8 hours I *have* to sleep right after work. I just do. Which of course screws up the rest of my day / evening. It's hard to get people to understand that I'm not lazy etc that I don't intend to forget crap or be so scatterbrained, rather it's my body being weird and leading to that. Oh bless you spoons :D

 
The spoon theory works for pretty much most 'non visible' illnesses. It describes my MS to a tee......
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #7 on: September 29, 2011, 02:26:48 am »
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The spoon theory works for pretty much most 'non visible' illnesses. It describes my MS to a tee......

 
And my depression/myriad of other psychological issues....


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« Reply #8 on: September 29, 2011, 09:20:43 am »
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And my depression/myriad of other psychological issues....


Definitely describes my depression/anxiety issues.
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« Reply #9 on: September 29, 2011, 09:38:02 am »
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And my depression/myriad of other psychological issues....

 
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Definitely describes my depression/anxiety issues.

 
This. With the school schedule I have this term, I'm pretty sure that I've over-reached my spoons..... Here's hoping that I can survive it!
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #10 on: September 29, 2011, 01:08:27 pm »
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Ok, so I'm out of this loop. What exactly IS Spoon Therapy?

 
The blue words in the post are a link to "The Spoon Theory."
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« Reply #11 on: September 29, 2011, 01:30:14 pm »
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The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino)


The perfect analogy.
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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #12 on: September 30, 2011, 07:53:55 am »
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And my depression/myriad of other psychological issues....

 
And even to situations in which people who ordinarily don't have to think about such things find that they do - no one has enough spoons when they have the 'flu, f'ex; and no one's spoons are infinite so even people who have lots can try to do too much and use them up.

And grief (among other things) can make spoon-counting weird - I'm used to having to keep an eye on my spoons (depression, mainly), but right now it's... I don't have fewer spoons, but I have fewer general-purpose ones; most of them seem to be specialized.

(As someone who likely has ADHD, I also have to count forks... focus/forkus - the pun is bad, it's just there as a way to choose what kind of non-spoon flatware to refer to; the extension of the system is useful for me, though.)

It's completely nifty, to me, that what began as an illustration using what was handy turned out to be such an effective, versatile, expandable, and easily-explained analogy.

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Re: Spoon Theory
« Reply #13 on: October 01, 2011, 06:30:50 pm »
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The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino



 
I read it and it is the story of my life. I'm thinking about sending it to a friend of mine who I don't think quite understands my migraines and how debilitating they can be, but I think this can explain how it shuts me down.
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