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Baby Steps Chat
« on: August 18, 2014, 02:52:54 pm »
In the same veins as Jenett and savvy, what would people like to see covered in a chat specific to Baby Steps?

For anyone unfamiliar with the Baby Steps concept, here are some resources for you:
And, of course, so many threads in the FlameKeeping SIG. ;)
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #1 on: August 18, 2014, 02:58:37 pm »
Quote from: veggiewolf;156287
In the same veins as Jenett and savvy, what would people like to see covered in a chat specific to Baby Steps?

For anyone unfamiliar with the Baby Steps concept, here are some resources for you:
And, of course, so many threads in the FlameKeeping SIG. ;)

I'd like to see advice on managing mental health issues with religious exploration. As well tips on discerning between "I am staying in my comfort zone because I don't have spoons for anything else as this is good for me" versus "I am staying in my comfort zone because it's scary out there!!!"

Are those baby steps topics?
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I shall embrace the light. I shall weather the storm.
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #2 on: August 18, 2014, 03:08:02 pm »
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I'd like to see advice on managing mental health issues with religious exploration. As well tips on discerning between "I am staying in my comfort zone because I don't have spoons for anything else as this is good for me" versus "I am staying in my comfort zone because it's scary out there!!!"

Are those baby steps topics?

I am with Sage on this^

Also, in that same vein, I'd like to see how to increase baby steps slowly, until one is fully walking normal pace? I mean, I can do baby steps, but I don't know how to increase my baby steps slowly? I hope that makes sense.
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #3 on: August 18, 2014, 03:22:03 pm »
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I'd like to see advice on managing mental health issues with religious exploration. As well tips on discerning between "I am staying in my comfort zone because I don't have spoons for anything else as this is good for me" versus "I am staying in my comfort zone because it's scary out there!!!"

Are those baby steps topics?

 
Yes, they are and can be covered.
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #4 on: August 18, 2014, 03:22:23 pm »
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I am with Sage on this^

Also, in that same vein, I'd like to see how to increase baby steps slowly, until one is fully walking normal pace? I mean, I can do baby steps, but I don't know how to increase my baby steps slowly? I hope that makes sense.

 
Excellent idea.  We can cover that as well.
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #5 on: August 18, 2014, 03:29:34 pm »
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tips on discerning between "I am staying in my comfort zone because I don't have spoons for anything else as this is good for me" versus "I am staying in my comfort zone because it's scary out there!!!"

 
This yes more of this.

Also, did you see Juni's blog post on productivity? I'd like to see Doing More and Doing Less, if that makes sense - how to make small things count, rather than trying to do a ton, half-assing, failing and giving up.
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #6 on: August 18, 2014, 05:24:41 pm »
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This yes more of this.

Also, did you see Juni's blog post on productivity? I'd like to see Doing More and Doing Less, if that makes sense - how to make small things count, rather than trying to do a ton, half-assing, failing and giving up.

 
That sounds amazingly up my alley. Basically I want to be more efficient with my spiritual life, you know? The most bang for my buck. I cannot do All The Things, but which Things specifically should I be doing? More importantly, how can I learn to gauge that?

Maybe in general learning to set goals for spiritual exploration and learning. Like, okay, I've decided that energetic hygiene is something I need to look into for my own health and sanity, but I've had problems in the past sensing energy. I know I need to practice things like grounding and centering, but - but as someone who can't sense well on my own, how do I know if I'm doing things right vs. it all being in my head?

(And while "it's all in my head" is an answer I am perfectly comfortable with in terms of deity-based UPG, it is not an acceptable answer for me when it comes to "will this help me manage spoons?")
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #7 on: August 18, 2014, 08:59:18 pm »
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That sounds amazingly up my alley. Basically I want to be more efficient with my spiritual life, you know? The most bang for my buck. I cannot do All The Things, but which Things specifically should I be doing? More importantly, how can I learn to gauge that?

Maybe in general learning to set goals for spiritual exploration and learning. Like, okay, I've decided that energetic hygiene is something I need to look into for my own health and sanity, but I've had problems in the past sensing energy. I know I need to practice things like grounding and centering, but - but as someone who can't sense well on my own, how do I know if I'm doing things right vs. it all being in my head?

(And while "it's all in my head" is an answer I am perfectly comfortable with in terms of deity-based UPG, it is not an acceptable answer for me when it comes to "will this help me manage spoons?")

 
Pretty much aaaaall of this, and all the other points made. :) I think we might need more than one chat by the sounds of it (if possible)
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #8 on: August 19, 2014, 02:48:24 am »
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This yes more of this.

Also, did you see Juni's blog post on productivity? I'd like to see Doing More and Doing Less, if that makes sense - how to make small things count, rather than trying to do a ton, half-assing, failing and giving up.

Yes, would really like this! I need to work on basic goal-setting, but also on sticking to those goals.

Adapting baby steps when you have to take extremely small ones for health reasons, would interest me as a sub-topic of this. How do I value my very very little steps, while simultaneously not being satisfied with laziness? I always struggle with this!
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #9 on: August 19, 2014, 09:54:46 am »
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Yes, would really like this! I need to work on basic goal-setting, but also on sticking to those goals.

Adapting baby steps when you have to take extremely small ones for health reasons, would interest me as a sub-topic of this. How do I value my very very little steps, while simultaneously not being satisfied with laziness? I always struggle with this!

 
Hanging this here.  We can discuss all of this.

So, times/dates that work for people?  I work from home on Wednesdays, and I'm on the East Coast of the United States which is, I think, UTC-4 at this time of year?
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
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Hanging this here.  We can discuss all of this.

So, times/dates that work for people?  I work from home on Wednesdays, and I'm on the East Coast of the United States which is, I think, UTC-4 at this time of year?

East Coast is indeed currently at UTC-4.  I am in Mountain (currently UTC-6), and usually online during most weekdays, as well as some weekday evenings (any day EXCEPT Wednesday). Weekends continue to be a bit busy for me.

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Re: Baby Steps Chat
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East Coast is indeed currently at UTC-4.  I am in Mountain (currently UTC-6), and usually online during most weekdays, as well as some weekday evenings (any day EXCEPT Wednesday). Weekends continue to be a bit busy for me.

I'm UTC+1 at the moment. I can do chat up until 10pm or 11pm UTC, give or take. Which I guess is afternoon for most East coast USians.
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #12 on: August 19, 2014, 10:41:23 am »
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I'm UTC+1 at the moment. I can do chat up until 10pm or 11pm UTC, give or take. Which I guess is afternoon for most East coast USians.

I, uhh, have no idea how to use time in UTC, but Mondays or Wensdays is the best days for me. They'll be the days I have college (hopefully), but also the days I can't really work for other personal reasons.

I should be able to do afternoons/evenings.
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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #13 on: August 19, 2014, 12:08:44 pm »
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I, uhh, have no idea how to use time in UTC, but Mondays or Wensdays is the best days for me. They'll be the days I have college (hopefully), but also the days I can't really work for other personal reasons.

I should be able to do afternoons/evenings.

I really want to go to this chat, but I'm only really available after 5:30 EST on weekdays due to work, though I am mostly free on weekends.

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Re: Baby Steps Chat
« Reply #14 on: August 19, 2014, 12:28:04 pm »
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Hanging this here.  We can discuss all of this.

So, times/dates that work for people?  I work from home on Wednesdays, and I'm on the East Coast of the United States which is, I think, UTC-4 at this time of year?

 
Hanging this here- I'm definitely interested in this chat, and I can be there pretty much any time. :)
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