Phobias and Paganism

Hi everyone,
After my trip I thought I’d stop by and start a Topic over something I was thinking about while I was gone.
I chose to put this in the Beginners Section, simply because I think many Beginners would also benefit from this. If it fits in somewhere better though, feel free to move it around.

So I was wondering about phobias, well fears, that you can’t seem to shut off in general, or ignore. Especially the ones that interfere with one’s path or craft. The things holding one back from doing things that they would really like to do. So for instance someone would want to go up high, maybe in the mountains or on a tower or whatever to really feel the air up there and is afraid of heights. Or someone would like to get more into plants/herbalism/gardening and such things but has an insect phobia they can’t get a hold on. I’m thinking there are millions of examples to name, but I think you guys get what I mean.

So what I want to know, from some fellow pagans, is how do you cope with your personal fears when they get in the way of your craft? And by all means this doesn’t have to be “I do this or that spell” or anything “witchy” for that matter, if your answer is “I would see a therapist”, then by all means that’s cool too. Just wondering about coping methods that have worked well for you.

Thanks for taking a moment to read my babbling, can’t wait to hear about your ideas and stories.
Sincerely

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Clairaudience and a story

My stepson (I’ll call him Matthew) is autistic with cerebral palsy, quite severely so, and he was frequently surrounded by interesting phenomenon. Among other events, he would often laugh hysterically in the middle of the night in his blacked-out room – not just an ordinary laugh, but the exact brand as when being barraged with tickles: frenzied and joyous, and without triggering him to get up and run around, as also happened regularly. While his many doctors would say it was a symptom of his delays, I personally felt as if he was always accompanied by a protective spirit.

In 2017 Matthew was accepted into a group home, and shortly thereafter several undeniably curious things happened. Firstly, I had a clairaudient event (which is something I’d never experienced before): someone clearly whispering my name, twice in three days. Secondly, a shadow in the mirror of his room when I walked past.

Being an amateur student of pagan practices, and reflecting on the fact that Matthew’s father had died under mysterious circumstances several years prior, I made three divination attempts – one of scrying and two of automatic writing. The scrying led to nothing (I didn’t have a dark cloth), and while the automatic writing sessions contained interesting noises and a general sense of presence, the writing itself produced no clear leads, even after study and reflection. In retrospect I should have carried something with me into the sessions to help connect me to his father, but by the time I realized this it was too late: the phenomenon ceased less than a month after Matthew’s move.

But that voice in my ear. It was crystal.

I sought out Buckland’s Book of Spirit Communication in an effort to research clairaudience. He does list three or four exercises by which to develop the skill, but there was little other information about the technique itself. Therefore, since that time I have been asking the few pagans I know (all online) if they know of any solid leads (or potential solid leads) for working with clairaudience. Again too late, I later realized I could have dug deeper into Vitchvox also, but…  :'(

Any ideas? Suggestions? And is it even possible that the spirit wasn’t his father? I mean, I’m sure it’s possible, I just didn’t notice the phenomenon before the man died, and I never got any sense of malice or discontent from it. It was protective, even playful.

~Tym

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What’s Growing in Your Garden?

Recently, I repotted majority of my houseplants, including:

  • the hardy fig tree (which I thought I killed, but turns out it drops its leaves when stressed and then will grow them all back in a flourish).
  • Lucky bamboo (I have three different varieties but I don’t remember the names) – total of 11 stems I think
  • Pothos (so. much. pothos)
  • Aloe vera
  • Indian Rubber Plant
  • Begonia

I also had a friend send me some seed packets (!!!) a while back, and had sowed the basil seeds. They’re growing now quite nicely, but I can’t harvest them yet.

This all had me wondering: what are you growing in your garden, be it outside, inside, in containers, in the ground, in the air, or in water?

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Greetings.

My name is Tymothi, or Tym.

I am a middle-aged mortal from a very small town in the deep southern USA. Raised in the Roman Catholic world until college, I secretly studied Gardnerian Wicca from 2004 onward. Recently, after years of more public explorations into, say, Buddhism, I’ve been able to finally put my Wiccan texts into solitary practice. I am proud to say the efforts have resulted in some major successes, so after a long time of unfulfilling side quests, I feel I am at last able to control my own spiritual journey.

This site appears at first glance to be overwhelming, but this is a good thing. I appreciate the text-based approach, and I intend to spend the majority of my time studying the discoveries made by others as my practices continue to develop, and if I feel my own discoveries or insights would benefit others I will gladly share them as well. Thank you in advance, and in retrospect, for all your contributions. We are all in fact one, and now is a time in our collective history when I believe it would be wisest to consider ourselves as such. This means I have a sharp awareness that what I do to you, I do to myself. And I very much like myself.

That being said, please forgive any awkwardness I present. I am a frivolous person outside of spirituality, but in this realm I am quite serious, so if my lines become muddled at times, I apologize. Thank you for being here – it is truly a great discovery on its own.

Blessed Be.

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Prayers, Vibes, Energy Request for Momma TGW

Hey all.
Last Monday, my mom had major back surgery – essentially three vertebrae were partially fused with one another, a vertebra was taken out, and a cyst (which had ingrained into the derma of the spinal cord) was also removed. Needless to say, my mom has a long path ahead of her. She currently has to lie down in bed, and can only sit up for a total of 1 hour out of 24 hours. She’s barely mobile, and because she can’t really do the stairs, has to sleep in the family room, where there’s no a/c – and there’s a heat wave hitting NYS now.
If you can, please keep her in your thoughts, prayers, and send some good vibes/energy her way. She goes to the doctor tomorrow to see what progress has been made (she was discharged this past Saturday).
Thank you all.

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What, if anything, are you doing for the solstice this weekend?

As the tread title says: what, if anything, are you doing for the solstice today/tomorrow?

As it turns out, I’m composing a fairly long To Do list alongside this post.  I’ll probably blog about it, so I actually won’t write about it too much here, but it’ll include the following:

  • finish making and hanging my summer decoration
  • some celebratory food and drinks
  • creating (as mentioned) a draft blog post, to be finished at a later date

And then on Monday my friend and I will be meeting for a belated mini-celebration (we’d usually be making a day trip to Avebury Stone Circle around now, but not this year in the circumstances – and we’re not meeting until Monday as she’s currently visiting with her significant other).

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Prayers for great aunt and safe travel

I have two prayer/energy/whatever-you-do requests.

The primary one is for my great aunt who I just learned is in ICU.  She was discovered unresponsive by her caretaker.  So far, she is still alive.  We have a close bond.

Also, I am currently in a rural area in the bible belt, and I am becoming restless.  I am increasingly alienated from my family and I was always alienated from the surrounding culture for many reasons.

I have not yet made my flight out of this hellhole for a better life and career due to driving anxiety and anxiety in general.  But life here is becoming intolerable.

I am making some major changes to confront my fears.  I am determined to get out of here to further my career opportunities, to make new spiritual connections, and more.

I’m not moving tomorrow or anything.  We are after all in the midst of a pandemic.  But I am trying to make my escape in some months time, no longer than a year at most, I hope.

Please pray for my peace and safety.

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