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Can anyone suggest websites that explain these issues and the various problematic arguments in an accessible way?

 
Unpacking The Invisible Knapsack is always a good place to start.

Can anyone suggest websites that explain these issues and the various problematic arguments in an accessible way?  

I'd also be grateful for pointers or advice about how to talk to my friend about this issue in a way that will be more likely to help him really listen than cause him to shut me out.

I would recommend to find an "in" individual to him. Right now, he seems to take it as very proscriptive. If he's firmly of the belief that human experience is human experience, then the statistics intended to illustrate systemic injustice and apply to life experiences of PoC and not white people, would only support the "self-serving excuse" that PoC would have about why we're such grouchbags--because he only sees it from an individual level, "This mean PoC makes it an issue when I wouldn't, but I'm the one hurt and that's more okay than if I dished out the same hurt." And refusing to consider that it wouldn't be the same hurt, it would be a tidal wave of systemic oppression compared to a splash.

It might even be proscriptive with his understanding of gender politics, so I'd actually start appealing to a kyriarchal aspect that he hasn't walled off, first. Well, maybe Chimamanda Adichie's "Danger of a Single Story" TEDtalk (transcript) -- video available on YouTube, as a mostly race and nationality specific address, and... More Tumblr.

Eminently surf-able, that is, if you have YouTube access: Rantasmo's Reviews of Pop Culture That Needs More Gay (particularly the Male Gaze)
This excellent article, "The Distress of the Privileged"
Shakesville's Feminism 101
Finally Feminism 101's Feminism 101

Byron's Hurt's Introduction to Feminism as a Black Male Feminist
And finally Intersectional Kyriarchy

...He might not be ready for . Well, maybe--being initiated by Jane Elliott, a white woman being demonstrably brusque to other white people in a "'reverse-racist' simulation" I am running out of quotation marks. That might be something, or it might be the opposite. You know him better, of course.

Anyway, I'd like to try to get through to him and help him understand the difference between institutional racism and one person insulting another person because of race.  But I need some help.

 
Does he play computer games?

http://whatever.scalzi.com/2012/05/15/straight-white-male-the-lowest-difficulty-setting-there-is/

I really appreciate all the help.  Thanks so much, everyone!

 
I'm late to the party (because I'm still, very gradually, catching up after my hiatus this summer). Are you still looking for more resources? Because I can add a bunch, if so.

Sunflower

Yes.  This is an ongoing conversation -- which probably doesn't surprise anyone...

Nope, not one bit. This stuff takes time to learn and internalize. That's part of why I have plenty of relevant links; I'm still working on it myself (the other part being that I Bookmark All The Things).

From the Daily Kos, Why There's No Such Thing as Reverse Racism - both 101-level, and thorough.
Accepting Kyriarchy, Not Apologies
Of Dogs and Lizards: A Parable of Privilege
A primer on privilege: what it is and what it isn't
White Privilege Shapes the US
How to Fuck Up - because sooner or later, no matter how sincere and dedicated you are to social justice, if you don't experience an axis of oppression, you will; this is my favorite piece on how to keep from making more of an ass of yourself than you already have.
What is Institutional Racism? - more academic, but still 101 level; it and the other pages it links to on the site might well be useful.
Yet another Tumblr, Racism 101
Jay Smooth's excellent hip-hop video blog, Ill Doctrine

Sunflower