+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 1 2 3
Results 21 to 29 of 29
  1. #21
    Master Member Achievements:
    Tagger Second ClassThree FriendsVeteran5000 Experience Points
    Oíche will become famous soon enough Oíche's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Last Online
    Yesterday @ 01:29 PM
    Country
    Ireland
    Religion
    Irish Polytheism/Initiatory Witchcraft/Druidry
    Pronouns
    she/her/her
    Posts
    481

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by rubyred View Post
    So do you guys keep your altars hidden from view, or do you not care either way?
    My altar currently sits up in the attic (that is only accessible via my bedroom, so only my fiancé and I could really access it generally), mostly because I have built up a considerable amount of books and general pagan stuff and I prefer to keep it upstairs out of the main house area as we share with a friend and the house is quite small.
    In the future, we plan to have shrines to our respective gods scattered through the house (for example, we will have small shrines to Brigid and Hestia in our kitchen) in addition to a main 'witchy' room for our stuff.

    Until moving to my current home, I always kept my altar in my bedroom. I was happy with this set-up as it meant I could do my work in peace!
    However it did attract a fair amount of attention from some old housemates (who had a tendency to gawk at it ) so now I kinda prefer to have it more secluded!
    Last edited by Oíche; 24 Mar 2017 at 04:09 PM. Reason: spelling

    'You're my friend, and I love you- but you really look like a witch!!'

  2. #22
    Apprentice Achievements:
    3 months registered500 Experience Points
    shadowsiren is on a distinguished road shadowsiren's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2016
    Last Online
    28 Mar 2017 @ 06:52 PM
    Country
    USA
    Religion
    Eclectic Polytheist/ Searching
    Pronouns
    she/her/her
    Posts
    20

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by rubyred View Post

    Also, my altar is a small desk that I sit at so it's not just a little shelf or anything. It's a full on workspace filled with all my candles and incense and tarot decks and runes and crystals , an obviously spiritually dedicated space.

    I've seen on many websites not to have your altar out in the open or within view from anyone who wouldn't "appreciate" it, whatever that means. I don't know if I agree with that or not, since what does it matter what other people's opinions are on my spiritual practice? So do you guys keep your altars hidden from view, or do you not care either way?
    First, I have to say I love the idea of a whole desk as an altar!

    Now on to the question itself... my shrine (no working altar currently as I'm still muddling through what I want that to be, what I want on there, what I need etc etc) is currently on the top of my dresser in our bedroom. I like the amount of space that this gives me and the height is just right for standing at and keeping things out of the littles' reach. I asked my non-pagan husband if he minded having it in our bedroom and he doesn't. He's very respectful of it actually and has remarked more than once that he really likes having it there because he likes to look it at while he gets ready in the morning.

    However, I also hate it because it is the obvious "landing space" in the master bedroom and inevitably collects toys, books, pieces of laundry, and occasional other odds and ends as it moves in and out of the bedroom throughout the day. So I'm considering moving it to a shelf of the new bookcase (also in the master bedroom) to get it out of the flight path, so to speak, but I'm not sure how that would work with any daily/weekly practices.

    I also have a tiny "kitchen shrine" that is not obviously a shrine (at all) sitting on the windowsill of my over the sink window. The only person that bugs that one is the cats, lol.

    I'm a very private person by nature so in an ideal world I'd like to have a more secure, in the open (so I can see it/get to it easily) but still out of the way space for my main altar/shrine and then have more discreet/subtle shrines throughout the living areas. For instance, I love having a kitchen shrine for spur of the moment offerings and one of my main goals for our next house is to have a spot suitable for an ancestor shrine.

    Quote Originally Posted by Vixen View Post


    Hanging from the stick, from left to right:
    A braided cord made from horsehair from my own horse and a piece of string I found in the barn attached to a walnut from the tree in the backyard. I was wanting to use it as a pendulum but it's too rigid, so I put it up on the shrine. Next is a very old key I found hanging on a nail in the barn. I don't know what its for but its part of the history of the house. I keep it at my shrine to honour the house. On the right, and it might be difficult to see, are two necklaces with stones. I hang them from the stick to recharge when I'm not wearing them. One is an amethyst, the other an aragonite. With that is a little antler replica I bought at Christmas. Apparently antlers were hot this year so I stacked up one some as they represent my Lord to me.

    The cup on the right is an old tin cup that I inherited from my grandfather. He was a hunter and the cup depicts a deerhunt. I find it very fitting for a shrine dedicated to Cernunos. I use it to keep stones and bits I pick up on walks.

    The two Buddha's holding up most of the sticks and stuff were a housewarming gift from a friend of mine. In the crook of the left Buddha's arm is a tiny Buddha statue I've been given for my birthday with the explicit wish of the giftgiver to bring me good fortune and good health. I'm not a Buddhist but I am open minded and Buddha's given as a gift are said to bring good luck.

    All the flowers and sticks and things have been found in the woods and fields surrounding my house. I love the area I live in, it's full of wiildlife and it reminds me every day of my Lord and my connection to nature.

    Surrounding the shrine are items that are dear to me.
    The plate on the wall is a poem my great grandfather wrote. When my mother and her siblings went through my great grandfathers belongings after his passing they found a note with this poem folded up and tucked away underneath a drawer. It's about daring to live and be free. My mom had it printed on an aluminium plate to put up on the wall as a Christmas gift.
    On the left are the Valentines day card and my Happy Birthday card I got from my loved one over seas. It's the only solid proof I have of his existence. They're precious to me so they're up on the dressoir.

    Sorry for the very extensive post. I got writing and couldn't stop.
    Don't apologize! Personally, I always love to see/hear about other people's altars/shrines/sacred spaces and yours is absolutely gorgeous.

    Quote Originally Posted by WritchCodex View Post
    The replies have been somewhat interesting to me too, because I'm expecting some family to visit here in the near future, and I've also been wondering if I should hide my altar away. Currently it's in my room in plain view if you walk in, and I haven't had to worry about it so far because my agnostic husband doesn't mess around with it. He'll ask questions, but they're all respectful and curious rather than probing, and he doesn't touch any of the objects on it.

    But my family members coming to visit might just do the opposite, so I'm definitely thinking about hiding my altar items when they come round. For me, it comes down to confrontations that I would like to avoid.
    So much the bolded. So much.

    My extended family is aware that I am no longer part of the church I was raised in but our limited conversations since that "coming out" have been carefully hedged. My mom, bless her heart, views the spiritual safety (meaning that you belong to "right" belief system and the "right" religion) of her kids as one of her main duties and has been known in the past to throw out belongings she deems harmful when the person they belong to is not at home. A few years ago she went on a stint where she tried to throw out all of our R rated movies and not long after that she tossed about $50 worth of herbal tea in the trash while DH and I were out on a date. Our home, mind you, not shared with her in any way. She was just babysitting because a few of our kids have some anxiety issues that severely limit the people that can babysit for us. That led to some major discussions about appropriate boundaries and so far she's been much more respectful since then but I could definitely see her thinking that a full altar set up or obvious pagan shrine "crosses the line" and taking it upon herself to protect/save us from it.

    I don't want to hide my religious beliefs because I don't think they need to be hidden but... there are definitely people in my life that aren't ready to see the writing on the wall, as it were.

  3. #23
    Senior Newbie Achievements:
    31 days registered100 Experience Points
    rubyred is on a distinguished road rubyred's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2017
    Last Online
    25 Mar 2017 @ 02:12 PM
    Country
    USA
    Religion
    Pagan
    Posts
    12

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by shadowsiren View Post
    My mom, bless her heart, views the spiritual safety (meaning that you belong to "right" belief system and the "right" religion) of her kids as one of her main duties and has been known in the past to throw out belongings she deems harmful when the person they belong to is not at home.
    Whoa. I can't even imagine dealing with that. The only religious person I could think of coming into my house is my husband's grandma, and she's only been to my house literally one time in the 2 1/2 years that we've lived here. Even then, I seriously doubt she would throw anything away.

    Well my altar has been in the front room for a total of two days and already I've had to remove a tape measure, an empty water bottle and my husband's car keys. Not a good spot. Maybe I'm doomed to be altar-less for a while until I can figure out something better 😔

  4. #24
    Senior Newbie NightSpook is on a distinguished road NightSpook's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2017
    Last Online
    26 Mar 2017 @ 05:15 PM
    Country
    UK
    Location
    England
    Religion
    Eclectic Pagan
    Pronouns
    she/her
    Posts
    8

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by rubyred View Post
    So do you guys keep your altars hidden from view, or do you not care either way?
    I have always had my altar setup all year round in my bedroom. My hubby has never minded it being there. When I lived in my first ever place after moving out of my parents I had a small altar set up within the living room and guests would comment but more out of interest than anything else.
    I say this, it is your space where you live your daily life, do what you will with that space.

  5. #25
    Newbie WritchCodex is on a distinguished road WritchCodex's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2017
    Last Online
    27 Mar 2017 @ 05:41 PM
    Country
    USA
    Location
    Virginia, USA
    Religion
    Ecclectic Witch
    Pronouns
    she/her
    Posts
    4

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by shadowsiren View Post
    So much the bolded. So much.

    My extended family is aware that I am no longer part of the church I was raised in but our limited conversations since that "coming out" have been carefully hedged. My mom, bless her heart, views the spiritual safety (meaning that you belong to "right" belief system and the "right" religion) of her kids as one of her main duties and has been known in the past to throw out belongings she deems harmful when the person they belong to is not at home. A few years ago she went on a stint where she tried to throw out all of our R rated movies and not long after that she tossed about $50 worth of herbal tea in the trash while DH and I were out on a date. Our home, mind you, not shared with her in any way. She was just babysitting because a few of our kids have some anxiety issues that severely limit the people that can babysit for us. That led to some major discussions about appropriate boundaries and so far she's been much more respectful since then but I could definitely see her thinking that a full altar set up or obvious pagan shrine "crosses the line" and taking it upon herself to protect/save us from it.

    I don't want to hide my religious beliefs because I don't think they need to be hidden but... there are definitely people in my life that aren't ready to see the writing on the wall, as it were.
    I totally understand this! I love my family tons, and they love me, but sometimes their expressions of concern for my well-being, spiritual or otherwise, can be a bit... invasive. It's hard not to be a bit irked, even if you understand where the actions are coming from.

    Sometimes I feel like a bit of a coward for just trying to avoid that conversation about boundaries you described myself. Granted, these are relatives that I don't see very often at all, so it's not as though it's really necessary to have the talk because they won't be staying in my apartment while I'm away. Still, a part of me is a little ashamed of the fact that I so instinctively shy away from having a conversation about it.

    If I were more of an orator and able to articulate myself a bit better verbally, maybe...

  6. #26
    Senior Staff Achievements:
    Three FriendsYour first GroupCreated Album picturesOverdriveRecommendation Second Class
    SunflowerP is a splendid one to behold SunflowerP is a splendid one to behold SunflowerP is a splendid one to behold SunflowerP is a splendid one to behold SunflowerP is a splendid one to behold SunflowerP is a splendid one to behold SunflowerP is a splendid one to behold SunflowerP's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Last Online
    Today @ 12:37 AM
    Country
    Canada
    Location
    Calgary, AB
    Religion
    Religious Witchcraft
    Pronouns
    sie/hir/hirs
    Posts
    6,734

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by shadowsiren View Post
    Don't apologize! Personally, I always love to see/hear about other people's altars/shrines/sacred spaces and yours is absolutely gorgeous.
    You (and others participating in this thread) might also be interested in the Altar & Shrine inspiration & pics thread.

    Sunflower
    Don't teach your grandmother to suck eggs!
    I do so have a life. I just live part of it online.
    “Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others
    to live as one wishes to live.” - Oscar Wilde
    "Nobody's good at anything until they practice." - Brina (Yewberry)
    My blog "If You Ain't Makin' Waves, You Ain't Kickin' Hard Enough", at Dreamwidth and LJ

  7. #27
    Apprentice Achievements:
    3 months registered500 Experience Points
    shadowsiren is on a distinguished road shadowsiren's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2016
    Last Online
    28 Mar 2017 @ 06:52 PM
    Country
    USA
    Religion
    Eclectic Polytheist/ Searching
    Pronouns
    she/her/her
    Posts
    20

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by rubyred View Post
    Whoa. I can't even imagine dealing with that. The only religious person I could think of coming into my house is my husband's grandma, and she's only been to my house literally one time in the 2 1/2 years that we've lived here. Even then, I seriously doubt she would throw anything away.

    Well my altar has been in the front room for a total of two days and already I've had to remove a tape measure, an empty water bottle and my husband's car keys. Not a good spot. Maybe I'm doomed to be altar-less for a while until I can figure out something better 😔
    The great irony of the whole situation is that while she's always been deeply religious she was much more open minded when I was a kid. She thought it was great that pretty much all my friends were of different denominations/religions and was more than happy to let me go to their churches every now and then. In retrospect I think she thought I would (naturally) be the one converting all my friends and not the one being "converted". It's only been in the past decade or so that she's started trending towards zealotry and honestly, it makes me sad more than anything else.

    Is there a different spot in your living room that you could put your altar? I know for me the issue with the altar being on the top of the dresser is less the fact that it's "the top of the dresser" and more the fact that it is set dead between the entrance to the bedroom and the entrance to the master bath - so it is by default the natural place to put stuff as you're passing through. If there's not another place I'd definitely see if there is a corner in a bedroom or closet somewhere. I've only had an altar up for about 9 months but it would definitely take something from my day to not have it...
    ... even in all of it's "covered in stuff" glory

    Quote Originally Posted by WritchCodex View Post
    I totally understand this! I love my family tons, and they love me, but sometimes their expressions of concern for my well-being, spiritual or otherwise, can be a bit... invasive. It's hard not to be a bit irked, even if you understand where the actions are coming from.

    Sometimes I feel like a bit of a coward for just trying to avoid that conversation about boundaries you described myself. Granted, these are relatives that I don't see very often at all, so it's not as though it's really necessary to have the talk because they won't be staying in my apartment while I'm away. Still, a part of me is a little ashamed of the fact that I so instinctively shy away from having a conversation about it.

    If I were more of an orator and able to articulate myself a bit better verbally, maybe...
    It is hard because I do know she's not doing it to be mean or petty. She's doing it because she loves me and has my best interests at heart. I'm sure in her mind it's classified right along with "holding an intervention for [alcoholic family member]". My parents live about 2 hours away which is just about the perfect distance. We see them often enough that they have a good relationship with the grandkids (and with us) but not so often that they have a lot of time to squirrel deeper into things.

    And don't worry - I don't mind confrontation but I still shy away from those conversations. Mainly because I'm not sure how to have them in a peaceable, open fashion. It's hard to have an open conversation with someone who has little to no "open" in their beliefs anymore.

    Quote Originally Posted by SunflowerP View Post
    You (and others participating in this thread) might also be interested in the Altar & Shrine inspiration & pics thread.

    Sunflower
    I that thread.

  8. #28
    Staff Achievements:
    5000 Experience PointsVeteran
    Sefiru has a spectacular aura about Sefiru has a spectacular aura about Sefiru has a spectacular aura about Sefiru's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Last Online
    Yesterday @ 05:06 PM
    Country
    Canada
    Location
    Eastern Ontario
    Religion
    Kemetic Remix
    Posts
    723

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by shadowsiren View Post
    Is there a different spot in your living room that you could put your altar? I know for me the issue with the altar being on the top of the dresser is less the fact that it's "the top of the dresser" and more the fact that it is set dead between the entrance to the bedroom and the entrance to the master bath - so it is by default the natural place to put stuff as you're passing through. If there's not another place I'd definitely see if there is a corner in a bedroom or closet somewhere. I've only had an altar up for about 9 months but it would definitely take something from my day to not have it...
    ... even in all of it's "covered in stuff" glory
    .
    You might consider putting the altar stuff on its own little platform (box, tray, cake stand or something) to separate it from the not-altar part of the surface?

  9. #29
    Senior Master Member Achievements:
    Tagger Second ClassVeteran5000 Experience Points
    missgraceless is on a distinguished road missgraceless's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Last Online
    Today @ 09:59 AM
    Country
    USA
    Location
    Middle of nowhere, North Carolina
    Religion
    Eclectic mix of beliefs with Buddhist leanings
    Pronouns
    she/her/hers
    Posts
    532

    Re: Do you keep your altar out in the open?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sefiru View Post
    You might consider putting the altar stuff on its own little platform (box, tray, cake stand or something) to separate it from the not-altar part of the surface?
    That's exactly what I do with mine. My mini-shrine to Quan Yin is on a square plate I'd found at Goodwill, sitting on my nightstand. The rest of my nightstand is covered in crap, but the only thing on my shrine that shouldn't be is dust.

    There should be a picture or two floating around in the altar inspiration thread, but I'm on Tapatalk and can't go find it.
    "Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly." ~ Morticia Addams

+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 1 2 3

Similar Threads

  1. Open house for gods and goddesses
    By MeeneyLeeney in forum Gods, Goddesses, and Mythology
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 2 Dec 2014, 03:26 PM
  2. Open Heart Surgery
    By Raine in forum Prayer and Energy Requests
    Replies: 26
    Last Post: 21 Jan 2014, 06:00 PM
  3. Thank you for such an open and welcoming forum
    By Lady Faye in forum Introductions
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 28 Sep 2012, 06:56 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts