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    Re: christo pagan girl in need of support and friendship maybe even new mentors

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    but I kind of dance to the beat of my own drum when it comes to how I do things. Don't really follow a typical path but I have learned you don't really have to.
    Yeah, the fun part of the path you've chosen is: there are no rules, and you can pretty much make it up (and modify it) as you go.
    Which isn't bad, not at all, but sometimes people find the 'fun' part is also the most daunting (maybe even scary) part. And that's justified. I mean, you're pretty much making a religion that's all your own-- by you, and for you. It's exciting, and it's heavy lifting.

    Christopaganism: an Inclusive Path, by J&R Higgenbotham, will help you define exactly what your faith is. The work may seem like a slog; take it instead as an opportunity to suss out your own thoughts & feelings.
    Do you want Brussels sprouts on your Communion plate? Hell fucking no!!
    Point is: relax and have fun with the process. You might be surprised. I sure as as hell was.

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    Re: christo pagan girl in need of support and friendship maybe even new mentors

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    Yeah, the fun part of the path you've chosen is: there are no rules, and you can pretty much make it up (and modify it) as you go.
    Which isn't bad, not at all, but sometimes people find the 'fun' part is also the most daunting (maybe even scary) part. And that's justified. I mean, you're pretty much making a religion that's all your own-- by you, and for you. It's exciting, and it's heavy lifting.

    Christopaganism: an Inclusive Path, by J&R Higgenbotham, will help you define exactly what your faith is. The work may seem like a slog; take it instead as an opportunity to suss out your own thoughts & feelings.
    Do you want Brussels sprouts on your Communion plate? Hell fucking no!!
    Point is: relax and have fun with the process. You might be surprised. I sure as as hell was.

    Also, check out this one and that one. Good brain food.
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    Re: christo pagan girl in need of support and friendship maybe even new mentors

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    Since I associate myself as christo pagan witch its often times hard for me to make friends even in the pagan community cause there can be a bit of judgements towards people like me.
    I'm a Roman Catholic with some pagan leanings, so I can relate. Most of the pagans I know in real life are pretty suspicious of Christians, but the people on this forum are pretty open minded.

    I don't know what kind of Christianity you follow, but I find with Catholicism, there are so many overlaps with paganism, and traditional Wicca in particular. As the Wiccans have the Rede, Catholics also understand sin at its most basic definition to be harm. The natural world isn't necessarily divine to Catholics, but creation is understood to be a revelation of God, and Pope Francis's recent Lautdato Si' encyclical stresses the importance of caring for the environment. Liturgically they can be quite similar, and I think there's even a common ideal of humanity that goes back to our more primitive origins.

    For Christians, this is understood to be in Eden before the Fall, when we lived in harmony with nature and with God, before our selfishness and disobedience severed us from this communion. Through Christ, communion with God and the rest of creation is restored by his sacrifice of taking on our sins and overcoming death, and he gives us a model of love and justice that we are to strive for in order to keep our covenant with God. Christianity is about communion, both with each other and the whole of creation, as well as with God. I think traditional Wiccan teaching is similar, recognizing the dignity of all things due to the immanent divinity of all life, and living in harmony with nature and other people, as all things are connected in relationship with each other, including the Divine.

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    Re: christo pagan girl in need of support and friendship maybe even new mentors

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    I think the hardest part of the break up for me is that I know I hurt someone in the process of how it went down. I tried so hard to prevent that from happening and not hurting someone but things did not end up that way. And deep down I alsmost hate myself for putting pain on someone.
    cause I typically have been on reciving end of getting hurt and I did not want to do that.
    But I can't change what has happened in the past.
    I just don't know if I can truly forgive myself for doing what I did.
    I had what I believe to be similar situation when my first marriage ended. We had an open marriage, but I hurt my ex pretty badly, even though I was up front with everything. I still feel bad about it sometimes, and this was many years ago.

    If I could give you one piece of advice I wish I had gotten years ago; feel your pain. Work through it, but don't punish yourself forever. You will end up punishing those you love, as well. You can't be good to anyone else (kids, siblings, friends, etc.) until you are good to yourself. Self-martyrdom is still self-absorbing.

    Regarding paganism, I have found my best discussions have been interfaith. It's not always necessary to find people who think just like you. I have added to my practice based on things I've heard from Buddhists, Hindus, Muslims, and Christians. Right now I'm reading A Religion of One's Own by Thomas Moore. He's a former Catholic Monk, but he has a more pagan-leaning (from my perspective) view now.

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    Re: christo pagan girl in need of support and friendship maybe even new mentors

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    in a short sum up I am just really struggling right now in my life. I just went through a very very hard break up with my fiancÚ.
    I am a polyamorous individual I have been for years, and basically my fiance claimed he was accepting of how I was and really he was not.
    I admit there was blame on my part and on his part that ended up hurting both parties in the long run.
    I would rather not go into detail about that aspect of it...if its all the same to everyone here.

    the hardest thing about the break up was it proved to me that someone I thought was a close and trusted friend to me, was not really a friend to me at all.

    I have been making myself try to more spiritual practices then usual lately to help me get through this difficult time in my life.

    I also am realizing I am still fairly new to my pagan/wiccan life style and having more mentors in my life that I could learn from and grow from would be highly appreciated on my part.

    and for the most part it has been helping me out, but the lack of friends and close friends I have to reach out to and talk to does not help.

    Since I associate myself as christo pagan witch its often times hard for me to make friends even in the pagan community cause there can be a bit of judgements towards people like me.
    I am a christian with an interest in folk magic and would be happy to talk about that

    There are also a lot of christian witches on tumblr it might be worth following
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