Author Topic: Encouragement (Read 2221 times)

cletus90851 · « **Reply #15 on:** January 09, 2016, 04:58:27 pm »

Quote from: kratos264;182806

How did you go about telling your husband about your switch to paganism? If you were married at the time, and you don't mind my asking. I have started practicing Asutru about a month and a half to two months ago and am trying to figure out how to tell my fiance about my change in religion. We both come from very christian backgrounds and don't want to put unnecessary strain on our relationship.

I would tread very carefully. depending on how openminded he is, you could very well end up causing a relationship ending event. then again, if you do nothing and he finds out on his own, I think that would most likely be more disasterous than if you are honest about it.

start off subtle, maybe drop a few hints, and then when you feel it is appropriate, and he is in a really good mood, you can explain your beliefs to him. It may not go well, but the damage of withholding the truth and him finding out anyway would be far worse.

I was fortunate when I met Molly, to have found another Hellenic Pagan here in rural Louisiana, and I thank Hermes for that every day, but I also feel sorry for all those who are less fortunate, and/or stuck in an oppressive christian enviornment. I wish you the best of luck. Take it slow, and pray to your deitys/deity to open his eyes and allow him to see past your difference of faiths.

kratos264 · « **Reply #16 on:** January 09, 2016, 08:14:42 pm »

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I would tread very carefully. depending on how openminded he is, you could very well end up causing a relationship ending event. then again, if you do nothing and he finds out on his own, I think that would most likely be more disasterous than if you are honest about it.

start off subtle, maybe drop a few hints, and then when you feel it is appropriate, and he is in a really good mood, you can explain your beliefs to him. It may not go well, but the damage of withholding the truth and him finding out anyway would be far worse.

I was fortunate when I met Molly, to have found another Hellenic Pagan here in rural Louisiana, and I thank Hermes for that every day, but I also feel sorry for all those who are less fortunate, and/or stuck in an oppressive christian enviornment. I wish you the best of luck. Take it slow, and pray to your deitys/deity to open his eyes and allow him to see past your difference of faiths.

First off, my fiance is s woman and I am a man. And I think you missed a post, we have already talked about and have found a common ground that works for us.
Also thank you for taking the time to reply, everything I've found on here has been very helpful

cletus90851 · « **Reply #17 on:** January 09, 2016, 10:00:14 pm »

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First off, my fiance is s woman and I am a man. And I think you missed a post, we have already talked about and have found a common ground that works for us.
Also thank you for taking the time to reply, everything I've found on here has been very helpful

ah yes I see that now. my mistake. I am pleased to hear you found a workable solution. You are very fortunate in that regard.