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I've been having so much trouble trying to figure out my path. At first I thought secular witchcraft would fit me best but I'm discovering how lonely I feel during circle casting or doing any type of spell. I have not connected with any specific god or goddess.

As secular witchcraft does not need deities, this may mean secular witchcraft isn't a good fit for you. On the other hand secular witchcraft will work if you do address a deity or deities. Just like you don't need top pray for a science experiment to work, but praying will not interfere with it working either.

Having a set deity, or even addressing any god or goddess, somehow does not fit with me as much as a representation of Mother Earth and Father Sky does.

Then find something you feel represents Father Sky (a picture of the sky, perhaps) and use those. Nothing says you have to name them or include every other possible deity (the moon, war, wisdom, knowledge, heath, the home, etc. etc.) in your work.

I've been having so much trouble trying to figure out my path.

I had this problem once before, myself. Eventually, I realized that trying so hard to figure it all out was part of the problem; and I found that simply putting one foot in front of the other allowed me to move forward along my path, and figuring it out as I went along became much easier. Maybe this would help you?

I've been having so much trouble trying to figure out my path. At first I thought secular witchcraft would fit me best but I'm discovering how lonely I feel during circle casting or doing any type of spell. I have not connected with any specific god or goddess.
I do view nature as the presence of a great mother, or Mother Nature however I'm not sure how a masculine entity could fit in. I have a small wooden figure representing Mother Earth but I do not know what to add for a masculine polarity (difficult enough to find any figure relating to father sky).
Having a set deity, or even addressing any god or goddess, somehow does not fit with me as much as a representation of Mother Earth and Father Sky does.
(Where does that leave the moon??) maybe I'm over thinking this but how could I address the moon? As a separate being? Since the sun would remind me of a father so that isn't an issue? Sister moon? I'm just feeling overwhelmed at this point, forgive me. (2:38am)
Does this relate to anyone else? Help?

 
Witchcraft is many different things, as is Paganism. Unless you're following a specific lineage or tradition that requires you to do certain things, you can do anything that works for you. The representations of nature/deities/archetypes that work for *you* are likely to be the most comfortable way forward, if you're not looking for a relationship with specific deities or to develop a specific kind of practice. Plus, I rather like your earth mother/sky father approach there. Very Proto-Indo-European.

(Where does that leave the moon??) maybe I'm over thinking this but how could I address the moon? As a separate being? Since the sun would remind me of a father so that isn't an issue? Sister moon? I'm just feeling overwhelmed at this point, forgive me.

Just my personal thoughts to toss into the mix for consideration:
 
I tend to only take note of masculine vs feminine in regards to fertility themes, in a rather straightforward way. Perhaps similar to you, with dirt often being like a womb for seeds, and so on. However, in my perception, not everything has a gender or some humanoid/animal attributes, and not all human cultural gender themes fit with nature just so.

Some might say that aggression is masculine, but then I'm not sure those people have ever stumbled across a mother grizzly bear in the middle of the woods. Likewise, some people might say that beauty is a feminine thing, but more often than not, male animals tend to be more colorful and flashy than their female counterparts, using aesthetics to some degree to try to attract females, not the other way around.

So for me personally, I think it's important to peel away purely human cultural concepts. To me, all that is leftover after that, is again just very straightforward fertility concepts.

Which means that for me, the moon doesn't have a gender. The moon is still amazing, important, magical and so on, but it is amazing enough on its own without animal attributes like a sex/gender. It is simply the moon, with its own special qualities and effects on the world.

This doesn't mean that I think people who assign the moon a gender, such as female, are wrong. But I think that different people, based on many things, can perceive motherly and fatherly figures differently, and that that's okay. And also that not everything has to fall into the role of female/mother or male/father, that it's okay if some things don't feel like either to us. They can be special all the same without an assigned gender.